Many girls don't want to meet their boyfriend's parents, especially his mom, because they are scared they won't like him. But the situation is reversed: you are waiting, waiting, but he still will not open an invitation to a family dinner, although to visit your parents, he has long been going to his home. What is it, and why it happens, now tell us.
He's not ready to take the next step
Yeah, that can happen, even if he's already met your mom and even charmed your dad enough that he's not threatening to send him to the army in Sakhalin if anything happens. The point is that getting to know a girl's parents – that's one thing, but introducing you to his mom – different. He'll never see your parents again if anything happens, and he'll have to explain himself to his parents. And you know what that means? He's not ready for responsibility, so it wouldn't hurt for you to talk and seriously discuss what stage your relationship is at.
He knows it won't do any good
Not all moms have – Fluffy bunnies, cordially accepting their son's girlfriend into the bosom of the family. Maybe your boyfriend has a hyper-personal mother who is critical of her son's choices and may well ruin your relationship, just so she won't share her baby with anyone. In this case, the guy is just protecting you, because he is afraid that the relationship will come to naught. When the time comes, your relationship will get even more serious, and then he'll have to confront his parents with the fact – you are and you're not going anywhere, whether they like it or not. Be patient.
His parents have already seen you
And there can be two possibilities: either they really liked you, and the boyfriend thought that was enough – You don't have to represent them officially or vice versa – For some reason they don't like you. If the first one.. – It is better to insist and meet him quietly, telling him you would love to meet his parents. If the second one.. – Sit down and talk to him calmly. What is he afraid of and whether he loves you enough to fight for your relationship? No – Goodbye, let him live with his mother until he is 45, no – let him arrange a meeting and together you'll change his parents' minds. First impressions can be deceiving.
He's got some kind of secret
Again, not everyone's parents are as cool as yours. Maybe his family is going through a difficult time and no one wants to get to know him, and the boy is not telling you because he doesn't want to worry you. Maybe his relationship with his parents is complicated and he doesn't want you to know. Maybe their opinion doesn't matter to him. Either way, it's worth finding out or waiting for the guy to tell you himself.
He has no plans to continue the relationship
In the event of a breakup, he won't have to explain himself to his parents. I hate to think about it, but maybe he does not yet see a future with you together, and therefore it makes no sense to introduce you to their loved ones. What to do in that case, you decide: you can leave him to avoid wasting your time, and you can wait – Maybe he's ripe for it?
He's embarrassed about something
It could be anything from the furnishings of the apartment to his parents' behavior. It's likely that he's impressed by meeting your in-laws and now thinks he can't match: Mom will show you albums of pictures of him on the potty, Dad – swear every word and tell dirty jokes, your little brother will pour juice on you, and you won't have a good impression. Your challenge – to calm the guy down and be humorous about it.
Either way, the best option for both of you is to sit down and discuss everything in detail in private. Finding out exactly why he's not introducing you can only be done by asking a direct question.