The first date and the preparation for them – solid nervous breakdown. You spend hours choosing the right outfit, another two hours makeup, suffering with a hair dryer, curling and ironing for styling, to look perfect and just like him… And then bang – the first date goes awfully, you find that you do not have as much in common as it seemed at first, he behaved rude, the place to meet – not the best, and in general it would be better if you stayed home. Don't get upset, there will always be first dates, and most often not very good, but only after being on a really bad, we can appreciate the truly successful ones. And what to do and how to calm yourself after such an unpleasant surprise, read below.
Don't blame yourself
Girls are so built that if something went wrong, they first of all look for the cause in themselves and try to understand what went wrong. It usually ends up in banal self-deprecation and a bad mood. Stop ! Remember that there's nothing wrong with you, it's just that bad dates happen, people don't always fit together as well as they thought. It's not your fault. And if today it did not work, it does not mean that the next time will not work.
Put things in perspective
Saw the caption? Here's no need to think like that and vow not to go on a date ever. Think of a bad date as an opportunity to draw conclusions and decide more accurately what kind of guy you do NOT want and what kind of dates you do NOT like. The sooner you decide what you're looking for, the better you'll pick a guy, and you won't just browse around.
Talk to your parents or friends
It all depends on who you trust. If the first date went badly, to put it mildly, discuss it with a friend or mom, they will tell you how to act next time, so you do not run into the wrong guy, and help you decide what exactly you are looking for in a relationship. After unpleasant moments in life it is always better to surround yourself with people who love you and are always ready to help.
Think about what to do next with the guy
If you have already mentally started to think of ways to get revenge for the fact that this creep ruined your great night, then stop and have a good analysis (not from the position that you are to blame). The guy really isn't worth your attention? Or maybe the universe was just against you that night? These things happen. You seem to be right for each other, but everything goes wrong: he's late, then spills the juice on you, mumbles, has trouble keeping up a conversation, and generally bears little resemblance to the prince from your childhood dreams. But! Maybe it's not his fault either, and it's just the way things are? If you get one chance to try again, take it.
Don't obsess
This happens a lot with girls who haven't been in a relationship in a very long time, or who have never been in a relationship at all. They feel that if the date fails, something has broken in them during the break, and it's not worth trying again. Time out! For the third time, remind yourself that you're okay. Don't dwell on what didn't work out – go to new meetings, hang out with friends, remember your hobbies. Don't lie down and drench your pillow in tears, it won't help. And we do not need to be depressed before the approaching 14th of February and the coming spring.
Find something positive about it
In any, even the worst situation, you can find something good. Try to look at a bad date as something funny, like he was so clumsy – a real comedy hero, or he spilled juice on your dress and now he'll have an excuse to buy a new one, or maybe while he was running late you met someone else? You can even write a post about it on social networks – let your friends and followers share the same stories – laugh together, and you'll realize that it's not so bad.