And it's true, sex is a really complicated thing, and not just from a technical point of view, but also from a moral point of view, when you're both worried, not sure what to do, and worried that one of you won't like something. If you're still afraid of doing something wrong, read the list of things guys just can't stand.
When you're both uptight and you don't say anything
Yeah, well, no one likes it when their partner is shy and clamps down for half an hour and gets on their nerves and kills any desire. But guys love the unknown even more – when they don't know exactly what you want, when you want it, and how you want it, and you expect him to guess. It really pisses them off. Only guys in erotic novels guess, and in real life you better voice your desires to your boyfriend, so that neither of you will be tense, and you both know exactly what to do and what not.
When girls imagine they're porn stars
After watching a lot of porn (oh, let's not do that – everyone watches it, they just don't admit it) many girls imagine that they know exactly what guys want – especially when it comes to crazy poses, scratching his back, and so on. The truth is, guys are different, and they have different desires. So stop playing animal passion, leave the lollipop, and just ask your boyfriend what he likes, you'll get more out of it.
When you squeeze him too hard
And we're not talking about a big hug here. A barely noticeable touch is unlikely to give him pleasure, but you shouldn't squeeze his most sensitive organ like in a vise, either. He's unlikely to tell you directly that you're doing something wrong, so be smart – ask him if he likes everything, a straightforward question will be easier for a guy to answer by telling you exactly what you should do.
When he's doing all the work
And you just lie there. Yes, you lie there, don't twitch, and just wait until it's over. It sounds an awful lot like sex with a soulless object, sex is a team activity, and you have to be invested in it too, or at least react in some way, otherwise the guy sees no point in his efforts.
When he's the one who initiates it all the time
When a guy proposes to spend the night together – it's normal, but on the other hand, it would be nice if for once the initiative came from you. There's no shame in it, and you're not becoming a promiscuous girl. If you're dating, it's okay, so stop obsessing about it!
♪ When girls bite ♪
Some guys like it, but very few guys like it. Especially when it comes to oral sex – keep your teeth away from the most valuable. Nipples hurt, too. If you want to bite, bite his lower lip, neck, or shoulder, but be careful, you don't want to end up with a visit to the emergency room? It's too early for you to move on to themes from the book "Fifty Shades of Grey".
Lack of enthusiasm
If you enjoy sex with your boyfriend, that's fine, but if you're not enjoying it, there's no need to pretend and pretend that he's doing everything right, just so you don't offend him. When the truth comes out, it will be much worse for him than if you tell him honestly. It's at least not fair to pretend that you're okay. When it's actually the other way around. So just talk frankly and find out what you like and what you don't like.