Sometimes you start going out with a guy, hoping to change him. We tell you why it doesn't make sense.
He has his own mother
And he doesn't need a second one, you know. And if you don't understand, we explain. If you had a man who, like your mother, told you to wash the dishes, make the bed, put on a hat, and be friends only with Petya from the 5th floor, because he's nice – you would secretly dream of stabbing him in his sleep. Even if that person is your boyfriend. Think about what a guy will think of you. He can be patient, but his patience won't last forever. Especially if you're going to change him completely.
It's too late
From the first reason comes the second. It's too late to bring up a fully formed man. Although they say that guys are behind girls in development… But that doesn't mean that you're gonna be able to turn his life upside down. It's already been decided. And even a lot of love won't help him change in the vast majority of cases.
You're just not right for each other
Also an option. There's no point in dating people you want to change in the first place. So get over the fact that you're not on your way and find another guy. There are a lot of boys, really.
You're gonna waste a lot of time
Okay, let's say your boyfriend is always late. And it's really annoying for you. You think it's so easy to get a date on time. Get ready in advance and just be on time! And you're gonna nag him endlessly about it, and resent him, and not return his calls. And he'll stop being late… for a month. And then everything will go back to the way it was. And that's just a small disadvantage. What if your boyfriend is a womanizer?? You don't even want to start with that one. Don't date, don't renegotiate.
You'll torture each other
It could be that he's madly in love with you and he really wants to change. I mean, there are legitimate reasons to want to change a guy. For example, if he smokes. Then get ready that you have to fight literally every day. And it probably won't work. So we advise to think a hundred times, is he really the one on which you are ready to spend a lot of time and nerves. If there's even the slightest doubt, run away from him!
You're gonna ruin the relationship
Yes, by the way, even if he's willing to change, it's not only not a guarantee of success, but moreover – a sure and painful way to destroy the relationship. So choose between "you accept him for who he is" or "you slowly start to hate him as much as he hates you.". You know, it's just that there are people out of the way. And instead of going through a tragic love story, it's better to give up on the relationship in the first place. Or maybe you like tragedy, like in the movies? Then go ahead. Just don't cry afterwards.
He'll lie to you
It's very unpleasant when people close to you lie to you. But sometimes they don't have any other choice. If you forbid a guy to play video games, he'd rather hang out at a friend's house, saying he's having dinner with his "folks.". If you forbid him to smoke, then he will smoke when you're not around, and buy pounds of chewing gum. If you do not want him to communicate with your best friend, he will meet with her secretly. And if you're sure a guy's changed, be prepared to find out one day he hasn't.
You have to change yourself
That's probably the most unpleasant reason. I bet you haven't even thought about it? Like you wanted him to be? Telling a guy what he should do and then acting the way you want him to act? Well, no! If you're going to drip on a guy's brain, be prepared that he'll act the same way. It's hard to say. Relationships are about compromise.
Failure hurts you
You will turn into a constantly grumbling, disgruntled girl who hates all men. Yeah, you know, there are those who think all males are freaks and jerks and womanizers. If you're a sensitive person and you fail in your grand plan to "change a guy in six months," you'll have a very hard time recovering. And to believe that there are guys out there who don't need to be changed, even more so.