You want the naked truth about phrases to win girls over?
You are ready? Sure?
Well, here goes: there are no pre-packaged phrases that allow you to seduce women, and I'm sorry to see how there are still men who believe in this fairy tale.
However, there are other things very useful in seduction, that if you follow SeduzioneAttrazione.com you most likely already know.
Let's try to understand this issue properly:
- Point 1: the sweet little phrases you find out there are giant bullshit
Don't use them, they don't work even if she already likes you because they're just fake, cloying, and stupid.
- Point 2: there are very effective rules to follow in conversation
These do work, and that's the topic of this article.
- Point 3: Then there are techniques of seduction, some of which are expressed in "phrases to say" but ..
… but said by a man who is a failure in relating to women have no effect, and secondly it is not the phrase itself that makes you create attraction in the woman you like, as your masculine energy that you express flirting through this sentence.
So, if you want to get serious about it let's go check it out How to successfully carry on a conversation to win over the woman you like, Otherwise, if you want to shoot 2-3 sweet phrases (only to find out that they don't work), this is not the place for you.
"But if I run out of things to say, how can?"
Instead of thinking about the "little phrases to say to win a woman" let's deal with a much more important topic: the fear of very many men of remain without things to say when talking to a woman.
Let's see how the problem arises and the first thing to understand to solve it.
The question I ask you is this "When you're talking to a girl and you don't know what to say anymore… you don't have a lot of time really nothing more to say?"
After all, when you talk to friends, for example, this problem never arises. How is it possible?
Here's the secret: there is not "physically" a lack of things to say, you do not have an empty head of topics, after all, you have a life, a series of experiences and thoughts and have nothing to say?
No, the speech is a different. Here's what happens: every time you're talking to a woman and you don't know what to say in your head you set a kind of bar.
Imagine what you find when you're standing in line for a roller coaster, you know?? The one where you that children under a certain height can not pass? Here, just that.
And what do you do with this bar? You measure the topics, the things you can think of to say, the phrases you think you need to win over.
Of course, you don't realize it, you don't consciously think about it, but subconsciously your brain "pulls out" a series of topics and things to talk about, then compares them to the bar that you you have room and if they are not up to the height discard them, so often you find yourself in silence.
In other words, you come up with various arguments, various jokes or things to say, but many of these do not pass the test of the bar because they are considered not up to the woman in front of you. And the more you consider the woman in front of you to be of value, the higher the bar gets and the harder you struggle to find arguments.
The bad news is that this happens even when you talk smoothly, but you consider the woman you want to seduce superior to you. The result is that everything you say is always "of a certain level", she notices and classifies you as a person who wants to impress her. Game over.
And it's not just a matter of arguments, but also of the way you say things. I remember one time a girl, talking about someone she was dating, said, "We talk about everything, but I always feel like he's trying to impress me, always showing up perfect.".
I understand the question?
Perfect, so the first way to have things to say is to let go of the need for perfectionism of things to say.
With that understood, obviously it's not like you can say anything, there are certain rules for conversation and topics to avoid.
Let's be clear: these are not topics to be avoided because "I'm not up to the woman in front of you", absolutely not, they are to be avoidedbecause there are two people in the conversation, and you must keep in mind the needs of both.
Topics to avoid
Let's see what topics to avoid when talking to a woman.
First of all, however, it can be very useful to take a look at the most common mistakes that men make when they try with a woman, you can download the Free Report that explains them, by clicking here.
Let's go now to the topics to avoid:
- Politics
Talking about politics has two big problems.
First of all, You can't know how the girl in front of you feels about it and, if she thinks differently from you, you risk starting a heated discussion that you should definitely avoid.
Secondly, it's a very logical and cumbersome. When you're talking to a woman you like you want to evoke emotions, and overly logical talk makes it harder to get on the emotional plane.
- Sexual orientation
Just like politics, talking about people's sexual orientation is dangerous, maybe even more dangerous than politics.
For you homosexuality is absolutely not a problem? Ok, it's your opinion.
For you homosexuality is something strange? Ok, that's your opinion.
These are your opinions and at the beginning you should keep them to yourself, at least until you know how the person in front of you thinks.
Maybe you have a lesbian friend or, on the contrary, you grew up in an environment where homosexuality was seen as a sin. At first you can't know, so be careful.
Last thing to close the speech: even if you don't say it as an insult, watch out that "faggot" by many people it is considered an insult, so here too, be careful.
- Soccer
Most women don't care about the latest goal of your favorite bomber.
Ok, maybe it's your passion, but there are Times to express it and times that are not okay, always keep in mind who you're dealing with.
- Engines
I think one in two women don't even know what horsepower is or the displacement of a car, they simply care less.
I know what you're thinking: you'll have to use your encyclopedic knowledge of the latest issues of Quattroruote in other contexts.
Final note: every woman is obviously different, these are general rules that apply in most cases. For example soccer, a lot of women don't like it, or don't like it enough to talk about it for an hour, but obviously if you meet an enthusiast you can talk about it a bit.
As a general rule..
We've seen the arguments specific, let's see now in general what topics to avoid:
- Topics that are too logical
We just saw it: overly logical and cumbersome arguments break the flow of emotion.
- Technical arguments
It sounds trite, but some men do it.
You are an expert in something specific? Excellent! Good for you! However, this does not mean that you have to bore the woman in front of you by telling her everything you know about the installation of the latest generation of solar panels or any other topic that is too specific.
Maybe she's interested, maybe, but be careful because in many cases Might pretend to show interest out of sheer politeness.
- Vulgarity
Avoid vulgar topics. Sure, it's corny, but I've seen it happen before so it's best to say it.
Also telling about your alcoholic adventures not the best, say "You know, Saturday night I got drunk like crazy and threw up everything hahah!" it is not a phrase to conquer, I assure you.
Attitudes to avoid if you want to conquer a woman
If you have already downloaded the Free Report "Seduction: the 37 most common mistakes", you already know what I'm talking about.
In any case, a brief review will certainly not hurt, so some of the attitudes to avoid are:
- Bragging
The one who brags communicates that he does not feel up to the person in front of him and therefore shows off some things to reach the level of his interlocutor.
- Treat it like it's superior
Putting a woman on a pedestal as if she is superior to you is one of the worst things you can do.
- Try to convince her with words
Convincing a woman in a logical way of why she should get together with you does not get any results. Seduction is made of emotions, not of logic.
- Playing the good guy too much or too soon
As we saw in the first chapter, being a "good guy" works, but this side of you must be shown at the right time.
- Asking too many questions
Some men ask an endless series of questions, but this does nothing but bore the woman in front of them.