CHow to behave when your girlfriend is hit on? It will have happened to almost everyone to have a girlfriend and come to know that someone else is trying with her no!?
Great, of course we have to assume that if we are together with a girl I'm not saying we are necessarily in love but still we are linked affectively to this person and jealousy is a normal reaction with this kind of things.
So it's normal that we make a beautiful scene, maybe in the middle of people, threatening to fight and whatnot with all the strength we have inside right?
Wrong, so wrong.
As we said, jealousy, if moderate, is a positive thing that it succeeds in bringing value within the couple, but I repeat only when she is healthy, not when it becomes pathological and possessive, otherwise it risks becoming a deadly boomerang that wears down to the point of killing any kind of relationship.
A friend of mine used to say:
You try the shortcut to become cuckolded?! Well, start being inordinately jealous and before you know it you'll have a nice pair of deer style antlers come spring :-)..
The more we try to forcefully keep a woman to us, the more she will want to run away from us.
You know the rock metaphor that Reborn explained?! That must be the kind of relationship that should be between a man and a woman.
But we are digressing, we are at the point where you come to know, or because she tells you, or because you see it, or because someone else tells you that a guy is hitting on your girlfriend.
The first instinctive reaction that comes naturally to us and that goes back to our primal instincts, again speaking in primordial terms, would be: "Take a nice club and kill the rival who dared not only enter our territory but also try with our woman!".
And unfortunately, very often, we hear of cases where they happen for this kind of thing, unfortunately sometimes also end tragically.
But what would we get into?
Unless you're not really bothering your girlfriend, if you listened to your instincts that depending on the character of people leads more or less to make "messes", You wouldn't solve anything, you'd just be playing into their hands.
This is because you will show that you are not confident, but immature, insecure and stupid, without those basic characteristics that are called:
- Imperturbability
- Male Energy
Imperturbability does not only mean not to react negatively to negative signals that sends you a girl with whom you are trying, it also serves especially in everyday life, even when they are trying with your girlfriend, and must become your modus operandi.
Otherwise, by reacting negatively, you'd lose a lot of points in her eyes, unless she's one of those girls who likes negative dominance because maybe they've experienced a past that wasn't easy either on a family or social level.
Let's go over in detail what you should and should not do in these cases.
They hit on your girlfriend: what to do and what not to do
So, How to behave with your girlfriend?
1. Use imperturbability
Remain imperturbable and think that nothing serious has happened, it may be normal that other men find your girlfriend attractive, it is something that can certainly bother you but you must know how to deal with it.
2. Ask for explanations in a calm and quiet way
You can ask for explanations in a polite and respectful way, being careful not to sound like an inquisitor or a private investigator, and most importantly Never give the impression that you don't trust her or that you are investigating, whether because you don't show her confidence or because you irritate her, and such a behavior if repeated is very dangerous, always for the fact of the deer in the spring :-).
In case the information came from a "third party", it is even more important to ask for an explanation, because it could be a stupid thing that some envious person invents to make you quarrel.
It is also obvious that the reliability of information always depends on the relationship you have with this or these people and you must be smart enough to understand how much is true and to what extent.
3. Don't start with the "crazy horse" style
Often and gladly some people, in such a case, lower their heads and behave like "crazy horses" against whoever is in front of them, girlfriend included, this because it is always instinct that can lead you to behave like this when they are hitting on her.
You can take it out on your girlfriend for hitting on her!? You have got to be kidding me!?!? What's her fault she's a pretty girl and as is normal people try to be?!
4. Be confident in yourself, your means, and the relationship you have with her
Act as if nothing has happened, don't give it any weight, and don't show insecurity or concern.
That's because even if a guy hit on her and he's a man who knows how to talk to a girl and has a way with her, your girlfriend, if she really cares about you, won't go beyond a simple verbal flirtation.
Indeed, as Reborn explains in this article, you might even find such a circumstance useful to improve the relationship even from a sexual point of view between you and her!
A small consideration should also be made for long distance relationships, where there might be many more difficulties and easier misunderstandings.
In addition, if the relationship is not strong, the risks of estrangement in your couple increase and above all you have less capacity to remain imperturbable in case they try to hit on your girlfriend, because your brain starts to travel with fantasy going far beyond the actual reality.
In every situation the three watchwords are:
- Imperturbability
- Male Energy
- Respect and trust for your girlfriend
Work on yourself, improve yourself and improve your relationship, otherwise if you make a catastrophe happen every time someone tries to hit on your girlfriend, you could slowly lose value in her eyes and she could start to stop telling you things, until you get to..
…venison ragout tonight gentlemen :-)!
Good day to all
The Count