The reply: Relationships are all the time bizarre, and friendships aren’t any simpler to take care of than relationships with boyfriends. Particularly in case your girlfriend makes unhealthy decisions, and also you're tossing between two fires: inform her about it and attempt to hold her secure, or let her make her personal errors so she will be taught one thing.
The most suitable choice, in fact, is to not intrude in your girlfriend's relationship. There are two of them, and so they clearly know higher what's occurring with them, even when the girlfriend tells you all and every little thing. She would possibly inform you "I really like him a lot" sooner or later and "He pisses me off a lot along with his irresponsible perspective" the subsequent, and you must solely assist your girlfriend within the first case. Why you may't assist within the second? It’s doubtless that they may make up, after which you can be the final – so there is no such thing as a negativity between one another, they may blame every little thing on you and reside fortunately ever after, and you’ll lose a girlfriend or, if, God forbid, they get married, you get the farthest desk on the banquet subsequent to his grumbling grandmother and different outdated folks.
Normally, it’s higher to not give any recommendation to the particular person, if he doesn’t ask you for it.
To start with, you're not an knowledgeable. Secondly, who says your opinion is important for everybody and everybody? Sounds harsh, sorry, however it’s, in reality. If you don’t like your girlfriend's man, don’t let your feelings run wild, in any case, you shouldn’t date him, however your girlfriend, and if she selected him, it means she sees one thing good in him. What to do in case your girlfriend nonetheless asks on your recommendation? Nonetheless hold my feelings in examine and keep in mind the far desk at their marriage ceremony. As a rule, they don't actually need to hear your opinion, and so they simply take a second to inform you as soon as once more "how unhealthy he’s," to vent their feelings and transfer on. At finest, the girlfriend merely didn’t take your recommendation, and also you're livid, at worst – will benefit from and, once more, blame all of the troubles you if issues prove badly.
The perfect factor you are able to do is take a more in-depth have a look at the man and attempt to discover optimistic traits in him too, and assist your girlfriend for so long as they are going to be collectively. You’ll be able to solely intrude if he's dishonest on her and she or he doesn't find out about it (however solely with irrefutable proof)!), if he has a gradual girlfriend or (OMG!) the spouse, and the girlfriend he takes benefit of, and if he manipulates, humiliates, bodily abuses, and behaves unworthily to her, and she or he places up with. In these instances, the particular person is solely blinded by emotions and cannot soberly assess the state of affairs. And in the event you simply don’t just like the model of the man, his selection of college, his grades at college, whereas your girlfriend – straight A's, his manner of speaking or one thing like that – bear with me, it doesn’t imply that she selected the flawed man, everybody simply have totally different tastes.