What is self-confidence? Is it a vague or tangible concept? It is possible to increase self-confidence?
Especially for those who have low self-esteem the concept of self-confidence seems something far away, as if it were impossible to believe in their own abilities, as if people with low self-esteem were made of a different dough.
Self-confidence: when it's missing
Without self-confidence you live without caring about your goals, wandering in a flat life with no purpose where:
- you always hope that something good will happen, but at the end of the day it doesn't happen often, and when it does, it's coincidence
- if something beautiful is another person you stick to it as the only reason to live, you end up not valuing it and begging for its approval and sooner or later this person gets fed up
- when something bad happens, when a problem arises, you succumb under it because you think, and underline you think, you don't have the resources to overcome it
Confidence in your own abilities
How does someone who has trust in their own abilities? How he lives who has self-esteem?
Is perhaps some kind of invincible superman?
No, absolutely not, it's wrong to think that those who have confidence in themselves are always sure of what they do.
The bad moments can be there and anyone can take the hit, but while those who do not believe in themselves do not get up after the beating, those who believe in themselves know they can do it and then engage and eventually win.
This applies both in seducing a woman and in everyday life.
So how does one live who has confidence in himself?
Si sets goals that motivate them, in the first place, and this is no small thing. And begins to really know himself.
How many live for the day without wanting anything more than what they have?
This is not a bad thing in itself, if a person is really happy with what he has good for him, but the problem arises because many people say they are happy and actually would like more.
For them being well means not being sick, being so-so, surviving, getting by.
But as Oscar Wilde said in one of his most famous aphorisms
Living is the rarest thing in the world, most people just exist
Second, after setting goals, a person with self-esteem starts to get busy, to take fucking action, to get off their asses!
Trivial? Sure, trivial! Fundamental? Certainly.
And when he acts he is not afraid of the judgment of others, he is too focused on his goal to care what others think of him.
The vicious circle of low self-confidence
Lack of self-confidence is a circle vicious!
If you don't have confidence in yourself you won't take "risky" actions and therefore you won't be able to increase the confidence you have in yourself!
But you don't take risky actions because you don't think you can do it so there's no way out, it's over, turn off your computer and go back to your life.
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Just kidding, just kidding, there is in fact a way to get out of the vicious circle and into a circle virtuous.
Caught the language difference?
A circle vicious is like a spiral that points towards low and it takes you further and further down.
A circle virtuous is like a spiral but pointing towards thehigh and take it to new heights.
Levels of what?
In this case of self-esteem and self-confidence of course, but how to do in practice?
First of all: there is something that you can do?
There are practical steps you can take to increase your self-confidence?
Of course, we see it in the next article on having self-confidence.