It's so weird – people still can't explain what love is. There are many definitions, but they all seem to be some incomplete and dry, they are always missing something. And what it is, only someone who's been in love knows. The real deal, not the sexy jock from junior high or Harry Styles. Just once you look at him and realize that love really does exist.
But if you're not completely sure how you feel, here are ten signs that you've met the right guy. They can help you understand.
You just know it
Somewhere in the depths of my soul settled conviction that this is exactly He. And there's nothing you can do about it, and it's hard to explain. You just know, that's all.
Your paths have crossed before
You might not even be dating. Just once you find that his birthday he celebrated his birthday in the same restaurant as you – there's such great music and food, where else was to go. Next time it turns out that you were at the same book fair – he bought Kurt Vonnegut, and you chose Salinger. If you think about it, it's so amazing – you could have met before, so many times you passed each other. But it all happened at the right place at the right time.
The right place and time
Yeah, by the way, then why are you meeting now?? Think about it. Maybe he hadn't totally broken up with his last girlfriend, and his mind was on her. And you were taking a lot of exams and you didn't want to look at anyone else, you were too busy worrying about forgetting all your verb forms in case of an answer lie in the meaning of "lie.".
Silence is never awkward
You can just walk around holding hands and not say a word during the evening. And none of you will feel uncomfortable. Perfect couples are silent not because they have nothing to say, but because they don't need words to communicate.
You feel each other's vibrations
You don't need to get a detailed answer when you ask him how he's doing. You already know by his face, by his voice, by the way he holds your hand. You always know when he's had a bad day. And him, when you need a big delicious pizza to melt all the wounds of your soul.
You know your friend's faults
How lucky we don't have to pretend to be perfect anymore. He knows your upper lip rises strangely when you make hissing and swishing noises, and finds it wildly cute. And you know he's not the fun, optimistic guy you thought he was when you first met him, and luckily you couldn't even talk to him seriously once in a while.
You have common goals
And even if your paths sometimes diverge, they cross again later. Even if you have to go to Paris to study and he to London, you know that after graduation, smart and educated, you'll move to Berlin somewhere so you'll never be apart again.
You share your opinions
Talking to him isn't scary at all. You know he'll listen to you, even if he doesn't agree with your opinion. And respect your thoughts. And you, in turn, will never make fun of him either, even if he says objective nonsense.
You give each other space
Notice that even when you meet the right guy you don't join bodies like Siamese twins. Real love is not about being together all your life, 24 hours a day. One of the main traits of love is mutual respect. He lets you go study English and dance, and you let him go watch hockey with the boys. And none of you are texting me angry text messages with accusations like "how could you leave me" / "who's more important to you – me or your friends" / "the teacher must be a very simatico, so you're walking around".
You're always ready to apologize
Somewhere (probably in some deeply philosophical "VKontakte") we once read that the one who apologizes is not the one who is wrong, but the one who wants to save the relationship. And it's true. It always takes two people to have a conflict (well, unless you're Billy Milligan), and even if he provoked the conflict, you participated in it too. You are ready to offer each other pinky fingers of reconciliation over and over again, and only then discuss, already on a cool head, the subject that caused the quarrel.