Some time ago I read the result of a survey done badly.
The survey was about a television series that I recommend you watch being very informative about the female psyche: Sex and the city.
In the survey men were asked which was the woman they preferred in the telefilm.
In the show there are four main characters: Carrie, who is the main character and therefore the most "normal", then Miranda, the portrait of feminism, Charlotte, the portrait of the woman of the past, sweet, kind, and Samantha, the portrait of the sexually free woman, in short, the one who in the show does more men :-).
In your opinion, which of these women is chosen?? Which among these women is the favorite among men?
The survey has decreed that Charlotte, the sweetest and kindest one, the one who is the most "good girl" is the favorite.
Does this sound strange to you?
In fact the question, as in any survey, was misplaced or, as it often happens, the journalist writing the article changed the question not realizing that he was changing the entire meaning of the results.
To give such a result, the question must imply that the preference was about the type of woman with whom you would prefer to have an affair.
Why?
Because if it had been about the woman to choose for a night of sex the preference would have been on the easiest and uninhibited, so Samantha.
What happens then in the male psyche?
Men make a pretty clear distinction between women they'd like to just take to bed and women they'd like to have an affair with.
Hypocrisy? Maschilism?
None of this, the roots of this behavior are very ancient.
From a reproductive point of view A man has to make sure that his genes are passed on, so you have to reproduce.
To this end she can implement one of the two following behaviors or she can implement both at the same time.
First, she can sleep with as many women as possible, increasing the number of children and therefore the chances that her genes will be transmitted.
For this purpose a woman sexually free, an easy woman, it's the obvious choice because it requires less effort, little courtship and therefore very short time.
Some might say: "But when I sleep with a woman I usually try to do the exact opposite, I try to not get her pregnant".
True, consciously you try not to take risks but your oldest part, the one that deals with reproduction, doesn't know, for her every time you have sex and have an orgasm you are trying to get a woman pregnant. I mean, this part of you doesn't know about condoms .
In addition to sleeping with many women there is a second strategy, That can be used in conjunction with the first one or by itself.
A man can in fact choose only one partner and stay with her making sure their children survive after birth by protecting them.
For this purpose, the best choice is a "good girl", a woman who does not do the easy, a woman like Charlotte because with her decreases the chances of betrayal and therefore decrease the chances of the man raising children that are not his own, he doesn't pass his genes and is therefore screwed .
And here's the kicker: women can make these distinctions too!
There are 3 possibilities…
1. Behavior with an alpha
If a woman meets a man and classifies him as an alpha she can easily go to bed with him quickly.
From a reproductive standpoint it means that she only wants his semen because she considers it quality, but knows that as a mate he would come across as unreliable.
2. Behavior with a beta
If a woman meets a beta will tend to choose to let some time pass before having sex with him.
Why?
Because she knows that in this way he will not consider her an easy one but will classify her as a "relationship" woman and thus will be willing to stay with her by raising her children (which perhaps however in reality are of the alpha )
3. Behavior with an alpha with beta characteristics
This is the hypothesis in which an alpha man also shows typical beta reliability characteristics, So he fulfills all the female needs, in short he is the real man.
In this case a woman will realize that she has won the lottery , she will not give herself to him right away, because she will want to be classified as relationship material, but he won't even take too long, because he knows that such a man can get bored and find another woman in a short time.