"How can I approach a girl who is in a group" I am often asked in the comments.
I personally have approached many girls in groups, whether it was groups made up of girls only that of mixed groups of boys and girls and what I have to say is I never had any particular problems more than when I approach single girls.
So let's go and see how to do it, but first a little note: have you already had a look at How to meet new women? No? Waiting for Christmas? Click here to check them out.
Approaching girls in a group is not difficult, it's just different
When it comes to approaching girls in a group many men panic: they think they will be immediately laughed at by the group or make a bad impression in general.
As I said before, from experience I can tell you that it is difficult for it to happen, the chances are very small and even if it does happen you will not feel the burden because you will be too excited and adrenaline for "the feat" that you will simply be satisfied to have exceeded your limit.
Having said that, approaching girls in a group requires some extra care, but nothing special, don't worry.
Let's see now in detail what are these tricks:
Approaching is not "the goal"
Too many men, when they leave home, make the mistake of more or less consciously setting themselves the goal of hooking up with a pretty girl. As I have already said hundreds of times it is a very wrong approach because it leads you to an excessive attachment to a rejection or a failure to approach, leading you, instead of improving yourself, to increase your anxieties and magnify your blocks.
My advice then is to see the approach as a situation that arises occasionally during the evening.
Believe me, that if you go out in public environments the opportunities to meet girls will come by themselves, without you even having to think about it, so start by focusing on what's happening to you and having fun.
Learn to be sociable
The difference between a girl on her own and a girl in a group is that there is a group of people to talk to. If you have social skills Minimum, or you're not used to being sociable or interacting with people it will be much harder for you to handle a conversation in a group.
This is exactly why when you go out I want you to learn how to socialize, don't focus on approaching girls but just making small talk with those around you.
This will ensure that when the opportunity arises you will be in a better position from which to make approaches.
Put yourself in public and social situations
If you want to meet girls in a group and if you want to train your "sociality" as I said before, you have to put yourself in social situations where you can do it, or better in situations where it is easier for you to socialize. It could be evenings in the square, events or concerts, or places where you can talk, such as pubs or cocktail bars.
How to approach a girl in a group
After you've done the following, let's move on to the practical part.
Indirect approach
Instead of going straight for the girl you are interested in, try to talking to the group in general.
This of course requires the ability to interact with people, that's why I told you before to train your social skills, if you are afraid to talk to people individually then you will have even more when it comes to a group with girls that interest you.
To approach a group you can use several ways:
- Ask a question and ask for information and then start exchanging some opinions
- Make a comment about the situation such as: "Wow! Beautiful this place is the first time I come here, what do you think? What cocktails would you recommend?" etc..
- Compliment the group, such as: "You guys seem like a great group, congratulations, you are fellow college/workers?"
As you can see, it's not so important what you say, the important thing is that you give them the opportunity to express their opinion.
In this way it will be natural and almost automatic that you start an interaction thanks to which you can get acquainted with the people in the group.
Obviously you don't have to see this approach as a technique but as a test, or better, a way to check their degree of sociability. What I want to tell you is that if you find a group of str***i (or str***e) you can't do anything about it, but as I told you before it is quite rare that you find a group like this.
Direct approach
Unlike the other approach, the direct approach consists of revealing your sociability right away intentions, in fact an approach like this is an approach from real man, and will inevitably raise your value in front of everyone's eyes. In fact this is the case where you declare to the group that you want to talk to the girl you are interested in.
What to say in this case?
Simple: your intention. However, I will provide you with examples of approach phrases to help you. Some of these phrases could be:
- "Hi guys! I find your friend very pretty, I would like to meet her!
- "Hi! I have seen your friend and I would like to have a chat with her"
- "Hi! Excuse the nerve but I would like to talk to your friend!"
And then you proceed according to your intention and start talking to the girl you are interested in. This courage shown right away will earn you a lot of points with the girl you are interested in.
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Niko