Loneliness doesn't work for everyone. That's you, yes, yes, that's exactly what it's not for you. We can definitely see that. Well, don't pretend like you've never wanted to take all the responsibility for anything and snuggle up on a strong man's shoulder? And pass out from the smell of his cologne when you cuddle? So. In general, if you really want to find a boyfriend, but for some reason it does not work, read this article. Especially for you, we've put together some simple, yet effective tips to help you meet true love. And find someone to give you the world's softest hug.
Part 1: Look for cool guys
1. Meet new guys
Before you meet HIM, you have to meet a lot of other guys. You could try starting a relationship with someone you already know. Or meet someone new. And it's not as scary as you think. It's even fun. Try! When you meet a new guy don't try to act like yourself. ¶¶ Be yourself ¶¶.
- You can go to sports or dancing, for example. What sport you like? Join a club. You can meet someone cute there. And you'll definitely have one thing in common.
- Subscribe to all the interesting Vkontakte publishers. There are people on there who are into the same things you are. So you're in for a good time. And as a bonus, you can meet the guy of your dreams. Just be careful. When you're online, you never know who's on the other side of the screen.
2. Get to know him first
When you get to know someone, give yourself time to get to know him before you decide once and for all that he is your next boyfriend. Don't judge guys by how they look. ♪ It's a vicious way ♪. Even if he's cute, find out if there's anything else about him that fits your needs for a perfect boyfriend.
- He's got a great sense of humor? He's smart? Kind? Honey? Make a list of your personal preferences. What he should be like, your boyfriend? What's important to you? If your new friend doesn't live up to these qualities, you shouldn't try it just because he's cute.
3. Make sure he's not dating anyone
And if that's not the case, hurry up and do your feet. Just picture yourself in his girlfriend's shoes. How you'd feel? It's a very good sense of humor. Never do to someone what you wouldn't want them to do to you.
4. Find out what other people think of him
Ask mutual acquaintances about the guy. If everyone is excited about him and thinks he's perfect for a serious relationship, that's a good sign. Find out what your friends think of him. And try to get his friends' opinions.
Part 2: Develop your friendship
1. Take your time
Don't push him, but remember, if he doesn't like you for who you are, don't waste your time on him. Better look for someone else to be your boyfriend. Don't expect him to propose tomorrow. Give him time to get to know you. At first, chat with him once in a while. Then you can increase the amount of time you spend with them. Give yourself and him space. Usually if you like hanging out and having fun together it's pretty quick to start seeing more of each other and hooking up constantly. Try not to get carried away and look desperate: you don't have to decide this is your future husband the first week you meet him.
2. Show him that you're special
♪ Just be yourself when you're talking ♪. Don't try to conform to him. Especially if the guy you're flirting with is a popular person. Show him that you're not alone in the one-person crowd that wants to talk to him. After all, you're an individual. Be funny and have fun. Stand out. And that also means getting to know each other. And never do anything you don't like just to make him like you. But try new things. Who knows, maybe you'll like the band he listens to.
3. Be open
Don't hide inside yourself, and don't seem too unavailable. Let him know what time you are free to talk to him. And show him that you feel good talking to him. Smile and look him in the eye. Don't look intimidated, unsociable, or mean. That way he may think you aren't interested and you don't want to talk to him.
- Tell him the seat next to you isn't taken and invite him to have lunch with you.
- Smile and casually touch him when you meet somewhere or chat with friends.
- Be nice to others, too. Show him you are someone everyone wants to be with. Make jokes with others, compliment them, don't be rude. Basically, show him that you won't bite him at all if he suddenly decides to talk to you.
4. Talk to him
It's important to connect with him more. If you meet by chance, talk to him and find reasons to do it as often as you can. The more you talk to each other, the closer you get. And it's a great way to make friends with him. And it's possible for a friendship to develop into something more.
5. Be a good friend
If you become friends, try to be a good friend. Be supportive. Become someone he can trust. Most guys like to go out with girls who are also good friends and have common interests with them.
6. Get to know each other better
Find out what kind of person he is. This way you'll know if he's really the guy you want to date. You don't have to like everything about him. And you don't have to accept all his faults. Remember that we can't change the people around us. That's why it's important that you like him for who he is.
- Talk to him about politics, religion, your childhood and family, your school life, your plans for the future. These things help you find out how different you are. Show him that you are interested in his life, but that you won't push the boundaries and pry into places he's not ready to let you go yet.
7. Find out what you have in common
It's important to find out what things you like in common. But it's also important to find where you're different. Talk to him and find out what your common interests are.
8. Find out if he is open to a relationship
Maybe he's already got his eye on someone else. Or you just broke up with someone and you're still not ready for a relationship. You have to respect his feelings even in a situation where he's not planning anything serious at the moment.
- That kind of information can be hard to get. Try the old tried-and-true "around the bush" questioning method. Your mutual friends might know something.
Make him fall in love with you
1. Make him a better person
Everyone wants to get along with people who make them better. It adds confidence when you know you are a good person and can be a better person if you want to be. Make this guy the greatest, inspire him to do what he likes, and make his dreams come true.
- Remember: don't patronize him, don't give him silly advice, don't offer him unnecessary help, and don't try to make him into someone you want him to be. Help him develop his own talents and change his life the way he wants to change it.
2. Show him by example how he can change
Don't criticize him too much when he does something wrong or wrong. You won't get anywhere that way. He'll just feel horrible around you. We don't need that. On the contrary, if he does something you don't like, show him by example how to do it right. Of course you can tell him what you don't like, but you don't have to control him or help him find a way to solve the problem.
- If he's in trouble at school, help him learn the class he's getting screwed in. But don't do everything for him. Just show him that he can do it on his own.
- ♪ Never, you hear me, never criticize him in public, in front of friends or relatives ♪.
3. Make yourself a better person
Show him that he makes you a better person. Don't hide the fact that in his company you bring out the best in yourself. Let him feel that he is an important part of your life. Ask him for advice on how to change things about you that you don't like.
4. Show your independence
Let him know that you are physically and mentally independent. He doesn't have to do everything for you (although he can help sometimes), you're perfectly capable of handling your life on your own. This way, he will understand that you are an evolved, independent and interesting person. Guys want a partner, not a controlling puppet.
- Never be afraid to be honest about what you like and don't like. Let him know what you think about what he says. You don't always have to agree with him.
5. Keep him independent
Don't make him think he has to spend all his time with you. Don't force it. Let him do the things he really loves. Let him spend the weekend with his friends. You have friends, too, right?? So do them.
- One of the reasons guys are afraid of relationships is they think they'll be tied up and imprisoned, not allowed to do the things they like. Show him that you don't plan to enslave him at all.
6. Be yourself
If you're not yourself, how will you know if he likes you or your made-up image? If you pretend to be someone you're not, it'll be harder and harder to be with him every time. If you don't feel comfortable around him, you are unlikely to enjoy this relationship.
Part 4: Take a step forward
1. Don't be afraid to make the first move
If you have met someone you really like and you feel like you have a lot in common and you are fun together, don't wait until he asks you to meet him. Even if you're afraid to knock on his "contacts" because you think he doesn't like you, do it. Yes, it's scary, but it's not really that traumatic for you, and you'll only end up winning in the long run.
- He may be shy, too. He may also think you're not interested in him, and be afraid you won't pay attention to him.
2. Flirt with him
Flirt with him. Show him that you are interested in him. Lean toward him when you talk, casually touch him, compliment him.
3. Ask him out on a date
You seem to be doing great, but for some reason he procrastinates and doesn't ask you to go to the movies. Take matters into your own hands. Just ask him out yourself. Act soft and confident, they like that.
Part 5: Make it easier for you in the future
1. Be a good partner
Become someone who's great to date. If you are known as a girl who is nice to date, it will be a lot easier for you to find a boyfriend in the future. Be fun, be active, be supportive of your friend. Be someone who's fun to be around.
2. Don't criticize, don't be lazy, don't be possessive
These qualities aren't likely to serve you well in the future. No one wants to date a lazy, angry, disgruntled girl who is always unhappy with everything. So don't put pressure on your boyfriend, give him your own space to act.
3. Don't cheat on your boyfriend
A surefire way to make no one around you want to go out with you is to cheat on your boyfriend all the time, or look like you do it all the time. Pay attention to your boyfriend. And if you like someone else, break up with your boyfriend first, and then build a new relationship.