You and your girlfriend have always been very close and know almost everything about each other. You shared secrets, rejoiced together, and were sad together. You and she were inseparable…and suddenly there he was. The guy you think you've been dreaming about all your life.
He makes you feel really happy and special… And you're doing great. A friend was genuinely happy for you and worried that things would work out for you. But suddenly you began to notice that she behaves strangely: from time to time flirts with your boyfriend, is more interested in his affairs than in yours, and often begs to keep you company.
She seems to have feelings for him too? And what to do in such a complicated situation? It's important for you to preserve both your friendship and your relationship? Here are some tips to help sort things out.
Make sure your friend is really in love
If a friend at a hangout asks your boyfriend how he's doing, laughs at his jokes, and makes jokes back, don't worry. There's no crime in being friends, you know.
But if she openly flirts with him, constantly giving him compliments, writing him messages, and always tries to go somewhere with you – this is cause for alarm. But again, don't jump to conclusions. Observe .
Your girlfriend may just be jealous of your boyfriend, because now you have a lot less time for her. But if you realize that she really has her eye on your boyfriend, move on to the next point.
Don't make a scene and just talk
If at a party you noticed that the girlfriend shows increased interest in your boyfriend, do not arrange a public showdown. Respect yourself and the people around you. It's better to talk to her alone.
If you have a trusting relationship, you can ask her to tell you how she feels. Show respect for what your friend is experiencing. And don't judge her, just listen. Say that you value your friendship, but your relationship with the guy is also very important to you. Encourage her! Tell her you're sure she'll get a boyfriend, too – and a much better one than yours!
If she flirts openly and hits on your boyfriend, tell her it hurts. A real friend will understand and stop doing that.
Separate friendship and personal life
If you used to go out all together, now try to limit the joint communication. Talk to your girlfriend and your boyfriend separately. Girlfriend will not worry too much, and you will feel better that your idyll is not threatened by anything.
Make time for your girlfriend, too
During a stormy romance can forget about everything else, including friends. This can really hurt them. If you find that your conversations with your friend have gotten a little out of hand lately, you need to fix that right away. Take her to the movies, to a cafe, to the mall more often. Just take a walk in the park. Talk about anything, but don't discuss your relationship in any way!
Try to move her attention to another worthy candidate
Maybe she fell in love with your boyfriend because she heard you tell her stories about how great he is. So your excitement and emotions have been passed on to her. But there are so many interesting guys around! There are probably good people in your group, at school or at school who you know. Maybe one of them likes your friend?
Discuss the situation with your boyfriend
If your boyfriend is flirting with your friend in return, tell him directly that you don't like it very much. If he values your relationship, he'll stop acting like that.
Feelings are unpredictable, so this situation can happen in anyone's life. And that's a big test for a friendship and relationship with a guy. Most importantly, remember: your people are sure to stay with you:)