In seduction, attraction is that feeling, accompanied by a series of sensations, which leads us to desire another person.
Why attraction exists?
Attraction exists to make us reproduce: it is the mechanism that nature has given us to perpetuate the species.
If woman and man were not attracted to each other there would be no offspring, and therefore the species would end.
What determines whether or not we are attracted to a person?
Generally speaking, we are attracted to people who have a high reproduction and survival value.
So we are attracted to :
1. those characters that indicate to us that being with a certain person our survival (and that of our offspring) will be favored
2. those characters that indicate to us that a person has some "good" genes and as a result having children with the person himself, there is a good chance that these "good" genes of his are passed to them, and that through education they learn other good qualities.
For example: a self-confident man is attractive in the eyes of a woman.
At the level of survival, a secure man will have more leadership skills and more ability to achieve their goals, not letting himself be discouraged at the first adversity. This will favor the survival of the woman and the survival of the offspring.
At the level of reproduction, a confident man will pass certain genes to his children, but above all he will teach them, consciously or unconsciously, to have this characteristic, and this in turn will favor their survival.
Keep in mind that when dealing with these concepts we need to go back in the past, to the primitive era. The part of our brain dedicated to reproduction has remained practically unchanged since then, so we are still attracted to characteristics that nowadays are not that important.
For example, a woman is attracted to a man who has the ability to protect her, but in the Western world there are no ferocious animals! Protection is for the most part provided by institutions…but this her "reproductive side" does not know.
But women and men feel attraction in the same way?
Female attraction is equal to male attraction?
No and yes, but one thing is for sure: they feel attraction for reasons a bit different.
A man feels attracted, especially at the beginning, by certain characteristics physical, then obviously also from the psychological ones.
For a man physical attraction è sufficient condition to sleep with a woman.
A woman, on the other hand, feels attracted mainly (but not only) by characteristics behavioral.
For a woman physical attraction è Necessary but not sufficient condition to sleep with a man.
Attention: feeling physical attraction does not mean being attracted by beauty, especially for a woman. A woman is physically attracted by a man thanks mainly to his sub-communication (read the article "Physical attraction and beauty are linked")?").
Beauty counts up to a certain point, when people ask me if beauty is important I often answer: "Think that a woman chooses you according to certain characteristics of survival and reproduction, beauty can certainly help but do not think that to ensure survival and reproduction the really important characteristics are others?"
(Yes they are other, and I make another clarification: more than being beautiful is important to give an image of health and hygiene.)
Having said that, let's point out some aspects.
In the first place: one must be careful not to confuse.Now I'm talking about attraction, which is a phase of seduction, it is obvious that in a relationship much more is needed. In other words, it is the necessary but not sufficient condition for seduction. The attraction is a feeling that if it is not supported by the rapport is very likely to vanish.
Secondly: cultural models influence the characteristics that are considered attractive.Just think of all the changes in the way of dressing and make-up that have taken place over the centuries, or not to go too far back in time, the predilection, so strong today, for very thin women, something incomprehensible in other eras where being in the flesh was a sign of health.
Because cultural patterns affect?
Why man is a social animal, and if a person meets the standards of a particular social group will have greater chances of being accepted, and perhaps to have a position of leader. In our time in fact the models are paid well and have high social positions.
Thirdly : psychological and genetic variations must be taken into account. Not all of us are attracted to the same things, that's why you have to distinguish between characters that generally cause attraction (e.g. beauty for women and dominance for men) and the characters that generate attraction only in certain people.
For example, a woman may prefer a man who has a specific comportment in a given situation. Since the situations are infinite, these characteristics will also be infinite.
Do not know in advance these characteristics (we do not have telepathy), when we go to seduce a woman we focus on those general characteristics that attract the greatest number of women: such as confidence, dominance, positivity, charisma, social intelligence etc. etc.
Then, as we get to know her, we can also show those characteristics to which she is more sensitive, as long as they do not conflict with ourselves.