How much beauty matters in seduction? – This is the question that many ask me.
So I'll answer right away, and then I'll go on to illustrate the issue in detail.
Male beauty in seduction a little counts, but it is only one of many factors at play!
But let's look at it first from a reproductive perspective.
Why we are attracted to beauty?
For 3 fundamental reasons:
1. Why beauty is a symbol of health. It's obvious: an obese man is healthier than a fit man, or for example white teeth are a symbol of good and healthy teeth, a very important condition in primitive times when food was not the perfect consistency that they have today.
For this reason, more than beauty as perfection, it is important to maintain certain characteristics that indicate health.
2. Because can help in life. A while back I was reading research regarding the link between beauty and career. Research showed that beautiful people had an easier time getting ahead, all other skills being equal.
3. For cultural reasonsEach people chooses its stereotypes of beauty, and these change over time. Now, for example, we are in a period where we like the skinny woman. This type of women will then have more social power, Just think of the models.
But there is a difference between women and men?
Of course: for us men beauty is much more important, it's a sufficient condition to sleep with a woman.
For women, however, is not so important, and especially for them is not important the "perfect beauty", the sculpted abdominal or smooth skin, but the showing health.
Take another leap back to primitive times: do you think a woman valued more than perfect hair and smooth skin, or the ability to lead over the tribe?
Obviously the second, and since the part of the brain dedicated to reproduction has not changed, the characteristics that are evaluated the most are still those.
Also, women confuse beauty with something else, in the article "Physical attraction and beauty are connected"?", I write:
The problem comes from the fact that a woman can not easily distinguish what is pure beauty, from all the other characteristics that make a person attractive.
Try an experiment: take a man and make him walk in front of a woman with a horrible body language that communicates insecurity. Narrow shoulders, crossed arms and a low stare. Ask at this point to give an assessment of the beauty of this man.
Then you make him walk with a different body language, one that communicates confidence: broad shoulders, chest out (but not too much otherwise it's ridiculous), straight head, smile and gaze forward. The woman will evaluate him much better by saying: "He is more handsome".
It's more beautiful?!?!?! But how?! It's the same person! We didn't change his look!
In reality, the actual beauty hasn't changed: we haven't combed his hair differently and we haven't even given him a facial makeover , we only changed certain characteristics that communicated security or insecurity, which the woman translated with beautiful / ugly.
But then because some good looking guys are so successful?
The real reason for the success of these people is their inner game.
What is the inner game of a person? It's the his worldview, his beliefs, his self-image.
A handsome person from a young age is treated a little better than a person of average beauty. Then as he grows up, maybe in elementary school, he's the one who can most easily find "the little girl" since at that age children certainly don't compete on confidence or charisma.
As he grows up, he has a whole series of experiences that form the belief that "they like him more than others, and they like him because he's handsome". So going forward, when talking to a woman, he is already sure to please.
That's why he remains calm, doesn't get embarrassed, feels safe during the seductive process… at this point it is obvious that it is more successful!
But not just because he is handsome, mostly because he has the confidence that beauty gives him.
What does this entail for you?
1. Beauty itself matters a bit, but it is only one of many factors.
2. What you need to develop are confidence, charisma, self-esteem, positivity, dominance, etc. etc.
3. From a physical point of view, you have to work on those characteristics that are indicators of health: a normal physique…white teeth…etc. etc. taking for granted hygiene and personal care that must always be present.
4. Work on your body language: broad shoulders, smile, straight head, take up space, etc. etc.