Bully
At the entrance to the world of girlish dreams is a face-controller who carefully screens out all the good boys. So historically, they're not allowed in until they're a certain age. To the good guys marry at twenty-five or thirty, give them their hand and that part of the heart that has not had time to break the bad guys. Believe me, even the nerdiest nerd, who started a page "Vkontakte" only to learn when sick, even she sighs, thinking about the main school bully. He's like a golden ruble: everyone likes him, but few know how to handle him right.
If you like him There's no sense in making the first move. He is a rebel, which means he hates manipulation and pressure of any kind. He grew up that way because his parents fed him enough of that at home. He likes sincerity, unconventionality and spontaneity. You just have to get in his field of vision, make him notice you, and be yourself.
If you're already having an affair with him Congratulations! Now half the girls at school hate you. But that's their problem, let them be jealous in silence – you've got enough of your own now. There's nothing more beautiful and horrible than a relationship with a bad guy. They're like a carnival, during which it's fun and scary at the same time. You've already seen what his mask hides? He's already shown you the vulnerable, romantic young man that he really is? Cool! But don't be fooled, he'll rarely be like that. His whole life is a constant disguise and an escape from himself. If you like grueling marathons and dress-up games, your romance will last a long time.
What a psychologist would say Even though bad guys are very confident in public, they're always doubting themselves. Somewhere deep down inside, they think you can't love them and they're bound to get dumped. To avoid confronting their fears, they often leave their girlfriends first or change them like gloves. It always leaves a vivid mark, but sometimes it also scars your heart.
Teacher
Looks like you're in luck at school. There's another man on the faculty besides the boozing gym teacher. And if he could interest you, then he really is a talented teacher. Well, your mom doesn't have to worry. You'll know at least one thing for sure. But seriously, welcome to the club. You won't be the first, you won't be the last.
If you like him You realize that even if he wanted to, you can not reciprocate? They'll send him off to sew gloves somewhere not too picturesque. Let's just say that a platonic crush is great. At least it leaves a lot of time for creativity. You can write poems and songs and paintings and study and grow up. As soon as the latter happens, you will immediately fall in love with someone else. Otherwise you'll die an old maid.
If you're already having an affair with him Uh, . Are you sure?? You talked to someone about it? Would you please read the following paragraph?.
What a psychologist would say The most trivial reason girls fall in love with teachers is that they don't really want a man, but rather a daddy. Of course, they imagine it differently, but when the dream comes true, life puts everything in its place. Even if at first sex is possible in such a relationship, after a short time it disappears. There is an unconscious inhibition against physical intimacy between relatives.
Desk mate
Bingo! You won the super prize. He can't talk about Bloch like your literature teacher, and he doesn't break windows like the school bully. He doesn't have a security guard, and his dad doesn't have a Bentley. But he overtakes everyone at the corner, somewhere between the second and third year of college. And ten years from now, at the reunion, classmates will be biting their elbows.
If you like him Make the first move. Text him "Vkontakte", call him to the movies, ask him to fix the computer – in short, think of something, you're smart.
If you're already having an affair with him Patience! He may not realize yet that a bouquet of tulips is a hundred times cooler than three long roses, but trust me, he'll figure it out soon enough. Especially if you help him do it. In the phrase "praise not scold," you put a comma after the first word. If you learn this simple rule, your patience will be rewarded.
What a psychologist would say A lot of times people use each other as crutches. For example, insecure girls can have affairs with "tough" guys in order to raise their social status. Boy next door romances are far more viable because they are based on the principle of partnership, not a lust for a crutch. Girls who choose these guys know how to see people, accept their flaws, and appreciate them for their real qualities, not for the opportunity to ride the "social" elevator.
An imaginary friend
He's perfect. Muscular yet educated, serious and witty, handsome and not a womanizer. He's never late for a date, always gives flowers and sends touching texts. He has exactly one flaw. He only exists in your imagination.
If you like him I can understand you – we like this one too 🙂 The only problem is that the Japanese will launch a similar cyborg model in about two hundred years. Someone wise said that we should choose a partner based on the flaws we're willing to put up with, not the virtues. And that someone was probably right.
If you're already having an affair with him One half of your classmates have boyfriends, and the other half are in love with someone, but you don't have anyone and so you decided to make up a beautiful love story? Get it. Write a women's novel. You monetize fantasies, and at the same time you rub the noses of these early maturing suckers – m?
What a psychologist would say He would have listened to you long and attentively, shook his head sympathetically, asked follow-up questions, and then… yelled at you 🙂 He'd yell that you can't do that. No, it's not about lying. You can't devalue yourself so much, exalt those around you with their gray, average opinions and experiences, and so ignore your own opportunities! You're already on a train, taking you on to adulthood, and there are no return tickets.
Girlfriend's boyfriend
When it all began, you were terribly happy for your friend. And she told you everything. Calling you after every date to fill you in on new details. One day you realize you've become jealous and curious. For a while you couldn't figure out who and to whom… I wish you'd never solved this quest.
If You Like Him It's been proven by experience that a man who's stolen from another woman is very likely to be stolen again. It's true, it's not by you, it's by you. Whether you need that kind of passing flag is up to you to decide.
If you're already having an affair with him You have to decide on the genre. Let's just leave out the horror and the detective.) You could be the heroine of a Brazilian soap opera, and then your life would be a never-ending showdown. You can plunge headfirst into the world of Hollywood movies and hope for a happy ending that involves you. Or you can try to take part in a French comedy where all the heroes sleep with each other, and only your sense of humor saves you from the avalanche of total absurdity.
What a psychologist would say Threesomes are always about the relationship with your parents. Your unconscious perceives your girlfriend and her boyfriend as mom and dad. And here, we'd like to take this opportunity to say hello to our friends Oedipus and Freud. If you don't want to spend the next ten years on the couch, trying to remember your childhood, try to answer the question yourself: Why do you need another set of parents??
Rich boy
He's got a five-bedroom condo downtown, a personal driver and a platinum credit card. His jeans cost more than your computer, at the cafe he tipped you more than your weekly allowance. According to unconfirmed reports, he not only has money, but also brains and heart. But no one has tried to verify this data.
If you like him "Cinderella" is a great fairy tale. True, in real life we have not yet seen the magical transformation of a pumpkin into a Porsche Cayenne or a Top Shop T-shirt into a Prada dress. If you come across such a handy fairy, be a pal and send us a link to her Facebook. We'll be very grateful to you. But seriously, tell me you really like this man and not the merchandise, the tinsel, and the dolce vita?
If you're already having an affair with him So you already understand that your boyfriend has not only a platinum credit card, but also a certain set of advantages and disadvantages. He's no longer a major to you, he's a living man. And if he let you into his world, give him a piece of yours. Take a ride on a trolleybus down the Garden Ring, meet some friends who have holes in their pockets but no money. His glossy world is certainly beautiful, but it's boring and predictable. He'll be grateful for the surprises that come rushing into his life with you.
What would a psychologist say? Major? There is no such type of person. No such neurosis. There are only insecure people (sociologists and Marxists don't count) who divide the world into rich and poor.