So, he took you out for a walk. Congratulations! You must have already imagined a lot of scenarios of how this outing would go and how it would end. I wish he could kiss you in the sunset, with orchestral music, with little birds flying around and corgis dancing..
Wait, are you sure you're going on a date?? What if it's just a friendly stroll? And how to figure out what's what, how to tell one from the other? Catch our tips, but remember it's all individual 💖✨
It's probably a date if..
💕 He initiates most meetings (including this one). He calls, he writes, he insists on seeing each other, sometimes too stubbornly. Obviously, he wants to be around you, and not as a girlfriend.
💕 He's making long term plans for the next meetings. For example, invites you to the movies a few weeks before the premiere, clarifies your schedule for the vacations, offers to go somewhere together beyond the local "McDonald's".
💕 He's trying to touch you. Always fixing the ends of your scarf or the hood on your hoodie, gently leading you out of the driveway by the hand or walking very close to you.
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💕 He's sharing a very personal experience. Dating is exactly what was invented to get to know the person better. If he talks about family, childhood, or complexes, and you realize it's not just about being sociable – maybe he wants you to get closer.
💕 He's jealous. You jokingly mentioned some other beau and he also "jokingly" said he would run him over with a roller? Girlfriend, he's got a crush on you.
💕 He tries to act like a gentleman. Giving a hand, holding the door, carrying an umbrella – sometimes it's just good parenting. And sometimes the urge to take care of a dear person.
💕 He's paying for you. If you didn't agree beforehand that he's buying you a treat, it's a 100% sign that you're on a date. Yes, it's an outdated tradition, but a tradition nonetheless.
It's probably a friendship if
🤝 The meeting is not in private, but in company. Any guy, even the shyest, will want to spend some one-on-one time with his sweetheart. But even if he asks you out because he's afraid to make the first move, his attention will be focused on you, not his friends.
🤝 He talks about other girls. You can object – saying this is his way of making you jealous. But kamon, that's a weird thing to do to a girl you're not even in a relationship with. If he asks for advice about herfriends or makes comments about other women in your presence, alas, the ball is not in your court.
🤝 He's complaining about life. We all want to make a good first impression. On a first date it's not customary to talk about bad things, to complain or whine about the injustices of life. If he pours his heart out to you, he's probably not trying to present himself in a better light. It's great to have such an honest friend-but only a friend.
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🤝 He's not paying for you (or trying to). Again, it's important to clarify: Maybe it's a gesture of respect. Don't look at the fact, look at the trying. If he hasn't even thought to propose, it's unlikely he has romantic feelings for you.
🤝 He has bad manners. You know – he spits on the ground in front of you, sits on the courts, drinks alcohol and kicks pigeons. There's all kinds of people, but even the biggest badass would want to be a little more focused with his sweetheart. 🤝 At least don't kick pigeons.
🤝 He is relaxed and happy. You might get the impression from the context that friendship is a bad thing. But sometimes buddies are closer and more important than guys and girls. When we crash, we're shy, we try to look our best and not embarrass ourselves, but with friends we can be ourselves. You're probably not his type of girl, but that doesn't stop you from building a strong and trusting friendship.
A guy asked me out and I was hoping for a friendship. What to do? 💔
Make sure you read the signals correctly and ask straight up. A date doesn't necessarily mean you're bound to the grave. If you and he will be okay, just enjoy the evening together, enjoying the atmosphere. If you feel somehow uncomfortable, it's better to walk away (you can lie and make up a very important case, but it's better to be straightforward).
A guy asked me out on a date, and I was hoping for a date. What to do? 💔
What are you gonna do?? We're obviously not counselors. However, if you realize you want this man and he doesn't want you, it's best to just let go and walk away. It hurts in the moment, but it's much better than hoping for the unfulfilled.