Today we talk about a very, very, very important topic, and at the same time very complex, not so much because it is difficult to understand in theory, but because few men go through the process that I'm going to describe, so what I'm going to talk about is well outside the common reality of people.
In a comment Paul writes:
[…] I think that all the seduction techniques you mentioned, can be put into practice effectively provided that you maintain a mental state of "lucidity", that is with a great control of your emotional involvement.
Because if we make the "mistake" of getting caught up in feelings before the appropriate time, the ability to use the various seduction techniques goes out the window…
I said mistake but. as well as theattraction is a phenomenon of instinct that you can not control, the same happens with feelings, how do we forbid ourselves to feel something for a woman? […]
Let's start from the principle.
A man who is unsuccessful with women usually tries and Excessive feelings and sensations towards them: he doesn't feel fully comfortable when talking to a stranger or a beautiful woman, if he even thinks about approaching anxiety holds him back and he often falls for women with that put him in a clear "friend zone"
When this man begins to discover that there are effective ways to seduce women, start using them and get the first positive reactions.
Firstly because these techniques work.
Secondly because believes in techniques and these give him more confidence.
As this person gets to know more and more women, they have less and less trouble trying (to make an example), this is because a process of desensitization.
Before in fact he was hypersensitive to the female presence while during his "seductive growth", acquiring more and more self-confidence and exposing himself to greater and greater challenges, he becomes less and less sensitive.
Warning: this does not mean that you become apathetic! It means that she feels certain things when they actually need to be felt, not because of some stupid things!
So it happens when one constantly step out of your comfort zone.
First, you didn't know how to swim and maybe you were afraid of the water, then you jumped into the small pool and toddled around a bit, then you went into the big one holding on to the board and finally you started to swim laps.
If I said to you now, "Swim ten yards where you don't touch," I don't think you'd be scared right?
But if instead I told you "Swim a kilometer", unless you're a professional swimmer, I think you would have some justifiable fears.
In the same way one may be scared at first just thinking about talking to a beautiful woman they are introduced to, but then they make an effort and start talking to her, then they approach strangers and after that they approach runway women.
If at this point I told him "Approach Pamela Anderson surrounded by 20 men" it is obvious that he would have some problems, but at the same time this fear is surmountable, with time, practice, and the right techniques.
Paolo talks about a "clear mind", and it is true, some techniques work much better when you are not carried away by excessive feelings. In order to reach this state of clear mind, one must go through a process of desensitization.
On the other hand, you certainly don't have to become a heartless robot, because I assure you that you end up not winning any woman if you don't have any feelings.
Paul also talks about "controlling feelings" and says that in his opinion it is not possible. Truly Paul is true: attraction is not a choice. But… but we have some control over how we feel.
Have you ever found yourself constantly thinking about a woman who didn't want you and then decided not to think about it anymore? Maybe it wasn't easy, but thanks to time, you did it.
There is a whole branch of psychology that bases its approach on the concept that the rational part has a certain power over the emotional one, so by acting at a rational level you can modify the feelings.
We certainly don't have full control over how we feel, but we're not at the mercy of feelings either, especially us men.
What to do then in practice?
Use every opportunity to talk to women and try with all the ones you like, overcome your fears and you will see that women will feel it.
I'm not talking about reading differences in your personality, I'm talking about radical changes of the way you feel and perceive the world, and therefore of radical changes In women's reactions to you.
Reborn