Penultimate point on the list of how not to end up in the friend zone and win a woman.
Today we're talking about a topic that is as important as it is profound: beliefs about our needs.
Every person has beliefs and values. These beliefs can come from many sources: society, family, teachers, friends, advertising, newspapers and many other things.
What these beliefs do?
In two words: directing our lives by directing our actions.
These beliefs are what we believe to be true, that we rarely question, and as you can easily guess Have a strong impact on the quality of our lives.
If one believes he is a loser he will project an image of a loser.
If one believes that if one jumps from the twentieth floor one will not get hurt, maybe one will jump.
These two examples make it clear that in all areas, not only in seduction, beliefs are the bricks on which we build our lives and form our world view.
But let's get to it: have you ever felt "guilty" about wanting to have sex?
Maybe it wasn't the strongest feeling, but if you stop and think for a moment you can feel it.
Maybe the last time you were trying to get the seduction process going, i.e. you were trying to get things going with a woman, you didn't like weighing your goal, i.e. getting to sexual intercourse?
Have you ever felt painted on you by society the image of:
man = reasons with penis = just wants to fuck VS women = emotional = better because less tied to sex?
Well, if you've never felt it, good for you, because I assure you that many people do, and the worst part is that they don't even realize it.
All of a sudden in the course of human history sexual needs have been the subject of criticism, as if you should be ashamed of wanting to sleep with a woman… or a man.
Luckily this is disappearing thanks to the increasing sexual freedom but these beliefs still hold on, they don't want to go away easily.
These beliefs lead humans to be ashamed of their own desires! And in my opinion it is a horrible thing!
La consequence of all this is that in the first place he will not act with courage and boldness to conquer a woman, all his actions will be subtly limited by the weight of this sense of shame, as if he had a ballast holding him back, as if he had a force pushing him in the opposite direction of his own desires.
This shame will arise even after the man has received rejection, because not feeling proud before of his sexual desires, he will feel even less proud afterwards. This will make you feel even more embarrassed for no reason. To not feel this way, try reading here.
Secondly a woman will perceive this inner block and the man in question will lose points in her eyes.
So: what does the relationship between a man and his needs have to look like to win a woman over? What to do in practice?
Simply Accept your sexual desires and needs as they are healthy and natural. Evolution has used them to get us this far, what can be wrong with them?
Evolution aside, only an acceptance and fulfillment of them can bring happiness and health. And these two characteristics are fundamentals in seduction.
By doing so, a woman will perceive that you are perfectly aligned with your actions, and by living your sexuality freely you will help her do the same.