Do you know why?? Because you can't judge everyone by the same standard! Sure, Korean dramas know how to brainwash and instill a few stereotypes, but when it comes to a real relationship with a Korean, you have to prepare for the big, hard work of bonding. After all, you both grew up in different families and different traditions.
The reasons I give below are all based on my own experience and what my friends and acquaintances have told me. I, like you, adore Korea and its culture, but relationships are different. So, you shouldn't date a Korean if ..
You're not ready to learn Korean
Yeah, unfortunately, you can't do without it. Even though young Koreans are trying to become more "Americanized," learning and speaking English, the older generation and its role in society has not been abandoned. If you live in Korea, even a simple trip to the store or the doctor's office can be a challenge.
Other times, like if you met and started dating a Korean man in Russia or another country, a lot of them just won't want to learn the language or will have a hard time doing so. But, if you start mastering Korean, which you're sure to be good at, the guy will certainly support it. Otherwise, it will be very hard to communicate.
…Very progressive
After all, Koreans are old school guys. In what? For example, if you go on a date to a cafe or restaurant, your Korean boyfriend is likely to insist on paying the check out of his own pocket. That's where taste comes in. If you're embarrassed by such things, then a quarrel or at least misunderstanding is unavoidable. It's just the way Koreans are brought up: you take a girl out, fine, but you have to pay for her food, drinks, tickets.
Another important point: Koreans can sound like racists when talking about this or that nationality. It would seem that in the age of Internet and public access to any information, but no, foreigners are still a mystery and a set of stereotypes for Koreans. You have to be patient, not offended, but explain and clarify. In fact, in any international couple these conversations happen. The question is whether you're ready for them?
…You don't like to chat
It's impossible to imagine a typical Korean guy without calls and, especially, messengers. Even if he's not particularly fond of technology, believe me, his smartphone is never far away.
In a relationship, the passion for social media is expressed in constant messages to their soulmate. At first you'll be crushed by this, but..! Not all of us are fans of endless chat rooms. You may be busy, not in the mood, and the guy keeps texting and texting… You have to put up with it. It's a lifestyle where everyone is always on call and in a hurry to get somewhere. Korean guys (again, not all, but many) want to know what's up with you, how you are and everything. Either you accept this game or you don't.
…You don't like alcohol
Let's not forget, we're not lumping all Korean opps together, but there are some rather obvious points I can't avoid mentioning. More than once I've had the opportunity to have lunch with Korean guys I know. Now, every time there's at least two bottles of soju on the table. Korean guys (and girls, for that matter) don't mind drinking, playing games, and having a cool time, but if you're dating a boyfriend who drinks and you don't, it can really grate on your nerves.
Actually this point is very important, especially if your Korean boyfriend tends to behave not very nicely when he's intoxicated. If he agrees to reduce the amount of drinking you do, you'll be fine. If they don't… It's going to be hard.
…Can't stand ambiguity
It's more likely not even hers, but the concealment of her emotions. Koreans are certainly very friendly people, but sometimes it can just be a common courtesy. If your potential boyfriend is not only polite, but also sly, his friendliness may be nothing more than a secret weapon to charm you. You have to keep the rose-colored glasses on the bridge of your nose.
There's the lie of salvation, and then there's the lie of brazenness. Unfortunately, in Asian culture, what is considered hypocrisy in ours can sometimes be part of some kind of plan or desire to please. You shouldn't distrust Koreans at all, but still, keep your ears open. Just in case.
…You can't adjust to the other humor
Koreans have it pretty specific and, frankly, it doesn't just revolve around toilet topics. In humor, they can be quite straightforward. So a Korean friend of mine thought it was funny that I had bruises under my eyes. I get the joke, but another girl with different standards wouldn't appreciate it.
On the other hand Koreans do not always understand our style of humor, the same irony or sarcasm. Maybe it's the language barrier and the peculiarities of expressions, but what sounds god-awful ironic in Russian, makes you look at least strange in Korean.
…You are both very stubborn
Yes, it sounds strange, but one Korean girl who came to study in Moscow from Korea told me about it. I could tell even from the way she spoke that she had an opinion on everything. Korean guys, according to her, don't like to concede much either. They just think their actions are right because they're used to it.
When you try to clean up someone else's mess, a Korean boyfriend won't appreciate it right away. You'll have to prove more than once that your decisions are trustworthy. But if you succeed, you can consider yourself a winner in life. Getting a Korean guy to do something is an achievement!
…you tend to be lazy
Don't stereotype Koreans as hardworking. They're VERY hardworking. By the way, the stubbornness I mentioned above also applies in this case. Korean guys from childhood are used to getting what they want, not necessarily high positions or lots of money. They can work all their lives at a regular job, but do it well. And they prefer to rest actively, to get away from the daily grind.
If you're lazy and put a lot of things off, a Korean guy's not gonna like it. He'll motivate you to take action without tolerating rejection. In fact… It's not bad, really? Who else will teach you how to work, if not a Korean? 🤗
In any case, my dear, remember: change and adjust to someone else is not worth it. Despite all your disadvantages, you're on your own and you're beautiful. Any changes in the character and attitudes of the two halves must come from both sides. Somewhere he will give in, somewhere you will give in. Only then will you be happy no matter what and, believe me, nationality does not play a role here 💖