How to overcome the fear of rejection by a woman?
For almost all men this question is of vital importance, and I remember that it was so for me too, before I started my journey of seductive improvement, and even at the beginning of it, when I received the first rejections. In fact, I felt embarrassed if I saw a girl I had approached again.
This is totally wrong, feeling embarrassed after a rejection is not useful to improve your seduction and your personal growth.
So, how to react positively?
Roger In a comment poses this question:
How to be immune to rejection syndrome?
How not to allow a rejection to destroy in a few seconds those small homeopathic doses of self-esteem that we try to inoculate ourselves day after day, after having decided to improve ourselves.
You say: do not care if you reject you. Don't care if you experience rejection.
But putting it into words is easy. A sensitive, fragile mind suffers from this.
So the question is this: can we develop techniques to make ourselves immune to rejection syndrome?
We can prevent a rejection from destroying our fragile self-esteem every time?
Of course we can avoid it, so here are 10 ways to do it:
1. Realize that the responsibility is not yours alone
It's true: the more responsibility you give yourself the more chances you have for growth, but at the same time you have to be aware that there will always be dozens of factors that are beyond your control: maybe she had a bad day, maybe she just got out of a difficult story and wants to be alone, maybe she is a lesbian, maybe her hamster died a few minutes before , who knows?!
2. Remember that you are improving
A rejection says nothing about your future. Now that you are learning seduction better day by day, if today a girl rejects you, it is not certain that if you meet her in a month she will say no again, because in the meantime you will become a better man.
3. Remember that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback
Before you started learning seduction a rejection was as heavy as a boulder because you had no idea how to improve, so a failure could not give you anything positive to learn from. Now instead a failure can help you a lot, with the tools you have you can understand where you went wrong and don't make the same mistake next time.
4. Shift your focus
Your focus determines what you focus, on which you place, your attention. You can put your focus on: "What a loser I am, she rejected me" or on "How good I was at trying", o "Before I would never have done it this way", or about other positive thoughts.
5. Use the exercise to eliminate negative thoughts
Use this exercise to get rid of all the negative internal voices related to fear of rejection.
6. Ask yourself the right questions
Questions are a very powerful tool because they give the right focus. Instead of asking yourself questions that focus your attention on what you did wrong, ask yourself the following questions what I did right, and above all ask yourself "What I should have done in that situation?" e "What do I do if a similar situation happens to me again??". In this way you don't see problems, but SOLUTIONS, And also your brain already begin to develop new strategies to deal with future situations.
7. Assume a mindset of abundance
If you hit on one woman a year it's obvious that her rejection will weigh heavily on you, but if you start hitting on other women unknowingly you will start to realize that there is not only "the girl you like" in the worldThere are 7 billion human beings on Earth, half of whom are women! (p.s. he story that there are 10 women for every man is a myth anyway )
8. Realize that she is not rejecting you
… is rejecting only your approach. You are learning seduction, you are looking for your style, maybe if you had approached her in another way your answer would be positive.
9. Remember that failure is part of development
Every time you try something new, every time you are outside of your comfort zone, every time you struggle to achieve a goal, you are likely to fail along the way.
The classic example given in Personal Development is that of Thomas Edison, who built dozens and dozens of non-functioning light bulbs, before arriving at what now illuminates homes around the world.
What would have happened if he had said "I don't try anymore, I'm afraid of failing again?" .
…And finally..
10. Take your time
The fear of rejection and fear of women will go away overnight, but if you apply the techniques mentioned above Will gradually decrease until it disappears.
That being said it's time to meet and conquer the women you desire, I'll explain it all in practice right here.