We talk so much about masculine energy…
But the feminine energy? What it is? Men have feminine energy?
And the women? How it works for them?
Here is a general view of the matter
All of us, men and women, have both male energy and female energy.
When I say "energy" I don't mean some form of voodoo magic, "energy" is just a name, a name that is given for simplicity to a whole series of behaviors, ways of thinking, acting, feeling, that have common characteristics.
So on one side we have the masculine energy, and on the other side the feminine energy, and obviously these two forces have very different characteristics, opposite I would say.
While masculine energy is strength, direction, imperturbability, dominance, feminine energy is care, kindness, abandonment, it is a fluid energy.
The purpose of masculine energy is to find new challenges and live intensely, the purpose of feminine energy is to share love and affection.
Each one of us has these energies within us and therefore they can be mixed in different quantities.
Up to the 50s 20th century men exaggeratedly expressed their masculine energy and were unable to express their feminine side. The macho man is just that, the classic man of the 50s who commands his wife by hand.
And women as they were? They were all the opposite, they weren't used to expressing their masculine energy and they couldn't even do that, women managers were a utopia, women could do nothing but stay at home and be housewives or at best do jobs considered typically feminine (secretary, teacher, etc.), and they could do nothing else. etc.).
Then came yippie revolution and feminism.
With the yippie revolution Men have started to listen more to their feminine energy, The long hair of yippies is a clear example of this.
The feminism instead it allowed women to express their own masculine energy, was a hard struggle that we don't remember today, but feminism was one of the most important revolutions in human history.
Where we are now?
Nowadays, starting from a situation of imbalance (that of the 1950s) we have ended up at another unbalanced situation, but in the opposite sense.
Men today are very capable of being women but not very capable of being men, women the exact opposite.
We have not been able to conscientiously take what the social revolutions of the 1900s could give us, and have exaggerated.
You want evidence?
When you talk to a woman about the man guide the relationship in many cases you hear yourself answer that you are a chauvinist.
Why?
Because many (and many) are unable to distinguish between leadership done with positive dominance (real man, the right middle ground) and leadership done with negative dominance (50s macho).
You want another proof?
If until feminism it was normal (sometimes mandatory) for a woman to be a housewife and take care of her children, today it is something strange…
If an 18 year old girl, talking with her friends about what she wants to be when she grows up, were to say "I'd like to be a housewife", they would look at her badly, as if it were a very strange and unfair thing to do, as if she had no ambitions, as if raising new human beings was not an ambition, as if raising children was less important than making a career.
So where is the true middle ground?
The right middle lies in the freedom of choice and expression of one's energy, both male and female.
A woman wants to work and not have children? Free to do it!
A woman wants to stay home with her children? Free to do so! (obviously if economic conditions allow it)
And the man?
Man should also be given more freedom, often his manly gestures are classified as machismo.
But since we can't point the finger at the world if every now and then this freedom is not granted to us, we take it, we take it and we grant it to the people who are with us.
What I mean?
How can we grant freedom?
The best example is a couple.
In most cases in today's couples, especially young couples, both partners work.
Work is often, not always, a place where A lot of masculine energy reigns, both for the nature of work itself and for some ways of doing things that have become rigid and unquestionable.
At work a woman must bring out his masculine energy, she often has to concentrate, make decisions, be decisive and assertive, don't let her feet be put on her head, and every now and then fight for her rights and career advancement (note that we said fight referring to a woman).
To do this, for most women, is required a effort far greater than to a man, because, again for most women, it is not normal to express so much masculine energy.
When they come home these women, deep down, would need to just be… women. So to leave the male energy at work and immerse yourself in your femininity.
The problem is that many men today, and therefore many male partners, do not let them do it. At the very time when it is most required of them to be men to leave it to women to be women, they do not do it.
And then we wonder why so many relationships end? lacks polarity, the soul of passion.
There can be attraction and passion only if there is a male and a female, as in life so also in intimacy.
Think about when in the intimacy of the roles are exchanged, there is always one who abandons himself to the other and the other that "dominates" him. To put it in other terms, forgive the French, there is always one who fucks and one who is fucked.
So, the goal is full freedom to express both one's masculine energy and one's feminine energy, and it is our job, as men, to allow ourselves that freedom and to allow it to the people around us.