How can you giving emotions to a woman? What are the two essential components of this process?
In the previous article on changing to please women we saw the various psychological mechanisms that block the development of a user, Umberto.
In today's article we see what you can do in practice to improve from a seductive point of view, we analyze his words because he expressed very clearly, and in various comments, what are his problems.
Umberto writes:
I've lost because they keep telling me I'm boring, sometimes nice, but not even close to being a boyfriend or a lover, and all this just because I'm a little less extroverted than others….
Umberto has received important feedback, and not all men with the same problems are lucky enough to receive it, now it's up to him to get the most benefit from them.
The problem is that they give him some boring, but what can we translate this into terms that can help us?
When a woman tells you that you are boring she means that you do not express emotions and as a result you do not make her feel emotions, and emotions are the soul of flirting.
This is a big bitch because seduction lives of emotions, without emotions there is no conquest, there is no attraction, there is no rapport, there is no sex, there is nothing at all.
Characteristic of emotions, as I explain well in Instant Attraction, is the fact of being contagious.
If you go out with a person and you are happy and energetic, it is likely that his emotional state changes, especially if it is a woman, and his emotions turn towards more positive gradations.
Similarly if you go out with a woman and you are bored, it is likely that she is bored too.
Your emotional state it is transmitted through your communication, and your communication it affects your emotional state, in a virtuous or vicious circle.
In other words if you are happy you will have a communication that expresses happiness, but if you are athappy and commit to having a communication that expresses happiness, your communication will affect your internal state and you will struggle to stay athappy.
For example, if you are athappy but you commit to smiling and open your body language, your internal state will be affected and your emotions will change.
Therefore, we must act in two directionscommunication and internal state because they influence each other.
1. Communication
We have already talked a lot about seductive communication, I refer you to the following articles:
- Show confidence in communication: verbal, paraverbal, and body language
- How to become more beautiful in 10 seconds: the 6 things to change about your body language
- Expressiveness and seduction: make a woman emotional to win her over
2. internal state
With internal state I mean emotions, because it's true that we can work a lot on communication, but it's also true that the most important part is what you have inside, so how you feel.
And in fact Umberto in an enlightening comment on his situation writes:
I take advantage of the disco example to tell you that I don't enjoy doing anything and that's why they don't want me and they leave me all.
There, we have found the crux of the matter, with "I don't enjoy doing anything" we have found the cause of Umberto's low energy and so the cause of what makes it boring.
The question of "tastes", what you enjoy or don't enjoy doing, is a bit complex and much more profound than we think.
Trying to make a summary, we can say that people often limit themselves, and create rigid structures formed by bricks with the inscription "I don't like it".
The truth is tastes are not rigidi, but they change like character, and they can change unconsciously or consciously.
In other words, just as your tastes have changed since you were a kid, so too can they change according to your will.
You can find beauty in everything, the key is to let go.
With some things will seem more difficult, with others easier, but for sure you will find some things that you like, that you enjoy, that stimulates you.
So start by letting go of the "I don't like it" beliefs, and instead put a big question mark over it: "I might like it"?".
Next, make a list of things that have some chance of pleasing you and faults.
One thing leads to another, and as you discover how to get joy out of certain activities, your shell will start to come off and you'll find that you'll enjoy more and more things… it's an ever-evolving journey.
I'm saying that you have to like everything?
Absolutely not! I am saying though that there are many things you can like, that can bring joy and fun into your life, but it's you who has to put yourself out there, both in a psychological and a more practical sense.
Because at the end of the day if you're doing things that you enjoy, that motivate you, that entertain you, and you're feeling all these emotions… a woman will be a beautiful consequence of all this.
Would you rather be with a boring and unhappy person or with an energetic, happy and positive one?
I'd say there's no doubt about who to choose (I'll take the boring one on a neurochemical level !!! hahaha)
Reborn