In the previous article we saw how in the attraction phase the topics that are included in the conversation with a woman are not of paramount importance, especially compared to flirting, giving emotions, etc. etc.
But, there is a "but"!
Why some men in trying to seduce they fail to take the interaction to a seductive level.
Sure, they can approach a girl, strike up a conversation, make people laugh, make jokes, even be impressed by how nice they are, maybe even attract a woman a little, but it's not going anywhere.
In other words, don't really hit on a girl… and I don't have to tell you where you end up in these cases true?
Friendship zone!
Has this ever happened to you? Did it ever happen to you that the conversation was going particularly well but you couldn't get things on a seductive level?
This is something that happens to a lot of people, for two basic reasons:
1. Fear of giving things a sexual-sentimental meaning (thus: shame about your own sexual needs and desires)
2. False belief that you can't suddenly change the meaning to the interaction
We've already talked about the first point in this article, and in Instant Attraction there's an exercise I really love about being proud of your sexual needs and sub-communicating it as a result of.
Now instead we see how directing the interaction in practice towards a seductive plan, give her a sentimental-sexual meaning, and thus succeed in attracting a woman.
Let's make an important distinction first.
The kind of seductive game you have depends on many things, among them depends on your approach. If, for example, you approach with a direct approach, therefore communicating interest immediately, it will be very easy to put things on a seductive level.
On the other hand, if you use a pure indirect, e.g. ask for information, it will be a bit more difficult for you to put your own sexual needs and desires into words
things on this floor.
The semi-direct obviously lies in between.
In any case, sooner or later, you will still need to sub-communicate your interest, then to sub-communicate that you are trying and that you are not there to "make small talk" between friends.
You can do this with both verbal and nonverbal language, and let me tell you.., it is a quite natural thing.
In what sense?
In the sense that I will suggest some useful behaviors to the purpose, but after it is good that you let yourself and your body freely express your attraction to a woman, without thinking too much about what you have to do.
In other words, try my suggestions but afterwards Let your instincts do the work, he knows how to express interest in a woman, unless you're gay He knows how to express interest in a woman .
Let's see then examples On how to give seductive meaning to different forms of communication.
Body language
You approach her
You touch it
You wink at her
You look into her eyes
You look at her body
Yeah fuck, you look at her body, don't tell me that can't be done! I certainly don't mean that you have to stare at her breasts for the whole conversation :-), but let's not take the piss out of it, she knows very well that you are a man and your body beauty attracts you more than anything else.
The more you deny this fact, the more you will come off as a loser who is ashamed of his own needs.
So, every now and then give her a good vertical scanner :-), but always with class ;-).
Paraverbal
You lower your tone of voice (and thus get closer)
You speak with a persuasive tone of voice
You take a lot of breaks
Use silences
Verbal
At any point in the conversation you can stop the conversation and put things on a seductive level. What you can say and do however depends on the moment, whether there is already confidence or not, and where you are.
For example:
Compliment her physical appearance
You tell her how much you like her
You tell her you want to marry her
You ask her to walk around herself to get a good look at her (this has to be nice )
Of course, as mentioned a moment ago, what you do depends on many factors. You can't ask a woman you met on the street in the daytime, after two minutes of conversation, to take a ride on herself that you have to look at her well, but instead in a nightclub, when there is already confidence, you can do it very well.
Now the objection arises: "What if he says no??"
If he tells you no, it happens often, you do not care, it is absolutely indifferent! You were interested in putting things on a seductive level and showing that you're not ashamed of your sexuality (yeah ok you also wanted to look at it I know hahah :-), but there's time for that don't worry 😉 ).