Anytime a woman tries to break your rules e disrespect you, is testing you, consciously or unconsciously.
The scenarios can be very varied.
In a serious and lasting relationship she can test you in many ways, the most obvious of which include the following related to jealousy.
For example, he may let you know that he has met a new guy and that he is not really just a friend, or he may often be seen texting with who knows what, or he may even explicitly tell you that he is dating someone else.
But the tests begin well before, from the first minutes of acquaintance and during the first meetings, and can be of several types.
He may ask for favors that are exaggerated compared to the degree of knowledge you have to make you inzerbinire, he may stand you up at appointments without notice, he may not be heard for weeks and then pretend that nothing happened, he may attack you for no reason, and many other things.
So from the very first moment you meet each other, will put a series of tests on your path.
If any fail too many, l'attraction will vanish and then there will be no relationship.
If fail many, there may be a relationship but you She will continue to disrespect you since she will unconsciously understand that you don't have the necessary pulse.
If you do you fail few or none, the relationship will be tend to be stable and long lasting.
We are talking about relationships, or any form of sexual-sentimental relationship between two people.
In these cases, how to behave if she tries to break your rules, disrespect you, and then test you?
Getting angry and yelling?
There, that's the thing worst that you can do.
The first thing to do is to remain unperturbed, i.e. not react negatively to the incident.
But then, how to handle the situation?
Because imperturbability is the fundamental step to take in these cases, a step that most men fail to do, but what is the next step to do in practice?
Let's make one thing clear: imperturbability does not mean inaction.
Imperturbability: do not react negatively.
Inaction: do nothing.
They are two completely different things.
Let's take a practical example
You've been together with a girl for a while, the relationship is monogamous, so the unwritten rule is that both of you do not have sexual-sentimental relationships with other people.
For various reasons, perhaps because she has been feeling a little neglected lately, or because your masculine energy has diminished, she tells you that she is dating a guy she likes. She tells you nothing's happened yet, but they're still going out.
This may or may not be true, and you'd be amazed at the cases where the new guy doesn't exist and she's just doing it to test you and get your reaction, but for our discussion, the situation doesn't change.
Now let's look at the 4 different ways to handle the situation…
1. Not imperturbability and not action
You are angry but try not to show it. You don't talk to her for a while.
Result: you fail the test because you've reacted negatively and you've been pushed around.
2. Non-perturbability and action
You get really angry and start screaming. You tell her not to do it anymore, you insult her and you shout at her.
Result 1: she gets angry in turn. You lose value in her eyes because Non-perturbability is lack of masculine energy, besides you hurt her emotionally.
Result 2: She gets scared and doesn't do it again, but I hope you don't want to set up a relationship on fear right?
3. Imperturbability and non-action
You don't react negatively but don't do anything to make him respect you.
Result: your value still remains high in her eyes, but She thinks you don't care about her anymore.
4. Imperturbability and action
Do not react negatively, and calmly tell her that she should not do it. You tell her you care about her and, since you're not angry, you see if you can resolve the situation and figure out why she's doing this.
By remaining unflappable you gain value in her eyes (imperturbability is a characteristic of masculine energy) and by acting you define your own rules, in other words you show that you have a pulse.
You pass the test by showing masculine energy, plus you're in the right frame of mind to discuss it with her and resolve the situation.
See how imperturbability combined with action leads to extraordinarily positive results?
And don't think this only applies to relationships, no, it applies to all areas of your life.
But now a question arises: is it possible to remain totally unflappable in certain situations?
Going back to the previous example, it is possible to remain totally unperturbed when our woman tells us she is dating someone else?
The answer is yes, you can be, but even if you are not totally imperturbable Not a big deal, It is enough that you know how to handle yourself, that you do not start to rant, to be too offended, to no longer speak to her and all these harmful attitudes.
Total imperturbability is not easy to achieve, but there are steps immediately below that are more than fine, in life as with women.