What is theindirect approach?
As explained in the Ebook How to meet new women, approaching a woman with an indirect (or pure indirect) approach means don't show your intentions in the approach itself do not show immediate interest.
It's an approach that works well, especially if you like using it and feel comfortable doing so.
Obviously those who begin to improve in seduction and come from a past of shyness (my past was like that, as were many others) are unlikely to be comfortable approaching a woman, no matter what kind of approach you use.
What to do then?
In this case it is necessary start to break down some fears getting out of your comfort zone, it won't be easy, but it is necessary.
Why do it? Do you want me to remind you of the motivation? There it is :
Now that you are motivated, let's continue the discussion.
If you're shy the indirect approach can give you a hand, if you don't know what kind of approach to use I highly recommend you start with this.
The suggestion applies to both cold and hot approaches, so whether you're going to meet a stranger or, say, a woman is introduced to you.
Because it is the best approach to start letting go of some fears and shyness?
Because it is the least "strong", it is the one that should cause you the least fear. I say "should" because everyone is different, but in general the indirect approach, not showing from the beginning the intention to seduce, creates fewer blocks and fewer negative feelings.
That said, however, you have to be careful because the indirect approach hides two fundamental problems, both in the cold and in the hot approach.
So let's see what they are and how to overcome them:
The passact to the direct
As explained in Instant Attraction, from type of approach depends how do you act right after.
If you approach direct with "Hi, I like you, they want to meet you." you can not immediately after pretend to be disinterested, you would not be congruent!
Similarly, if you start with an indirect you won't be able to shamelessly hit on them right away (unless you do something I'll explain in a second).
But… at some point an indirect way of doing things should change to a direct way of doing things.
What do you want: to kiss her indirectly? Kissing her by not showing your intentions?
What about.. have sex indirectly? (It's a new technique, she basically doesn't realize you're having sex! hahaha)
All jokes aside, how do you see your way around must turn from indirect to direct sooner or later (usually in a way progressive), and it is It is precisely this transformation that can cause problems.
Because if a person is very shy they risk wavering, while interacting with a woman they risk waiting too long to switch from indirect to direct mannerisms, and thus end up in the friend zone.
In the friendship zone?!?!
Sure! If you create attraction in a woman indirectly and then don't try it directly she will think that you don't have the balls to do it and will lose attraction sending you straight into the friendship zone.
So what to do?
First of all you can commit yourself to transform the interaction (from indirect to direct) as soon as possible, but if you just can't do it, you have to go "by force".
How to?