We learn from YouTube videos, discuss the latest news in messengers, and monitor our health through an app with a pedometer. No wonder that the search for a soulmate has moved into virtual space. Now few people get acquainted on the street – it's easier to write in direct message.
Revealing the most effective ways to find love in 2020 – online and in real life. About romance, too, have not forgotten – finish the article to the end 😉
1. Hug the handsomest guy at a cuddle-party
Name. cuddle – cuddle) speaks for itself: people come here for the tactile contact, goose bumps on their backs, and dancing cuddles. Kinestheticians squeak with excitement!
How to proceed: You fill out a questionnaire, specify your social networks, and fill out a little questionnaire. These measures are necessary to screen out suspicious individuals so that the site has a safe atmosphere. When you are chosen, the secret location of the meeting and details for payment will be sent to the mail. The average ticket for a three-hour party costs 1,000 rubles.
Two ground rules: everyone has the right of refusal, and no sex! To convert from vertical to intimate-horizontal hugs, party planners suggest getting behind doors. What you can do? Cuddle, dance, play with each other's hair, pull each other up by the ears, ride on your back, inhale scents – whatever your imagination allows. And, of course, you should look for the guy with the warmest and tightest hugs.
The pitfalls: The first time is awkward, confusing, and makes you want your mom.
2. Play anonymous
An option for the secretive and shy – anonymous bots in Telegram. Voices of strangers works like a letter in a bottle, thrown into the ocean: you write down a "howl" and send it to the chat room, and it gets to a random user. The algorithm chooses from the last 200 recorded messages. Creating the illusion of a real conversation. Sing, swear, cry, rap – you can do anything here, you'll be listened to and understood (that's not accurate!).
Bot creator Evgeny Kudashev recently launched another anonymous project Better Than Tinder. The downside and the upside of not-Tinder is that everyone likes and mats, but no one writes. Many users come here to improve their self-esteem, not to find love. If you're one of those, just throw your best picture in the chat room and get likes from strangers. Waves of self-love are guaranteed! Pics of those who like you, you'll see.
If you like someone, just send them a picture of yourself by signing your insta nickname.
How to proceed: The precepts of chat rooms for strangers are no different from those of open VKontakte groups: don't spam, don't throw open advertising, don't insult, and don't send nudes. All of these options open only when you've swiped in person. In these chatbots, users are looking for casual conversation and intriguing riddles.
Pitfalls: Anonymous can remain anonymous. It's not a given that the brunette you've pinned will text you. No guarantees, no strings attached – you'll only have to rely on luck and persistence.
3. Flirt with the likes, write in direct..
…Insta. Or in a private VKontakte message. Even a chat room on Odnoklassniki. Flirting on likes – an art that requires stamina, patience and proper planning. Unfortunately, there is no clear guide to courtship in social networks. The general principles: Subscribe, Like, Compliments in the comments, Views from Storizas.
How to proceed: Step 1 – curtsy from afar. Like a couple of his photos or posts on the wall. Not to seem pushy, you can give the first "heart" not the avatar, but a repost with a drawing set of sushi.
Step 2 – rate his selfies, pics with his dog or friends. Never like photos of your ex-girlfriend and your current girlfriend (if he has one, what do you do, girlfriend??).
Step 3 – leave a non-intrusive comment in the style of "Cool merch. Where you got it?". If he replies or at least likes you, your task is done: he wants to be useful. Go to my personal page for more details. At this stage you can be blown off by sending you to AliExpress, or they can call you into the store and help you with the choice.
The pitfalls: If a guy can't take a hint, this kind of flirting will seem like simple friendliness to him. But the most unpleasant thing that can happen to you is a ban and a block. Love is evil!
4. Go on a "speed date."
 "Speed Dating. speed dating is a kind of party with tasting, but you "taste" people instead of food. No crime – all participants are rigorously screened. The creators of the format think that a couple of minutes will be enough to understand if the person in front of you is yours or not.
How to Act: Show up like a normal date – comfortable outfit, hairstyle, "happy" perfume – just be prepared not for a vacation, but for real work! The girls usually sit at tables while the guys move from one table to another, like on an assembly line. After each conversation (and there are 10-15 during the evening), the participants fill out a "sympathy card". Organizers collect cards, verify data, and send each other's phone numbers to those who mutually like each other.
Allow 3-7 minutes for a meeting. So there won't be time to talk about your favorite "Riverdale" fan theories. In about two minutes you'll share names, ages, professions, and hobbies. You'll have to fill the remaining half minutes according to the situation. You can ask one of the 36 questions that can make anyone fall in love with you, or offer to reflect on one of Marcel Proust's questionnaire items. We don't recommend confessing your love or complaining about your exes right away.
Brevity and a sense of humor are your best friends on speed dating.
The pitfalls: No matter how much the creators tell us, five minutes isn't enough time to get to know a person. And you might find yourself in a situation of awkward silence. But you just have to get over it!
5. Take a TikTok Challenge
It may happen that you fall in love. But not just any guy from the parallel, but a celebrity. His Direct is closed, you can't get in touch with him in person, and his mail is full of business propositions. Make a wedge: since he is so public, we confess our feelings openly – through videos.
How to act: You'll need a camera, a tripod, and a trusty friend. The most frequent challenges on the set are dance-related. So dress as comfortably as possible, but modern: a cropped top, leggings and sneakers (just not wet, no matter how Tima Belorusski persuaded). And wait for the challange your selbah announced. Often celebrities browse material by a particular hashtag. The rest is easy: smile, repeat the moves, edit, post online, share with friends, hashtag.
Pitfalls: The object of desire may not see your efforts beyond the mass of other videos (a great excuse to turn on maximum creativity and stand out against the rest). There's a chance you might get noticed by someone who's not as famous, but just as handsome 🥰
6. Open a dating app
It still works in 2020. You fill in your profile, interests, and preferences, and an AI picks your match. The most popular are Tinder or Badoo – rely on your geo-position plus or minus 50 kilometers. So you can look for a boyfriend in any city.
In addition to these apps, there are others. Their developers wanted to please you and help you find a mate so much that they adapted as much as possible to your tastes, interests, and lifestyle. Hater Will pick a soulmate based on things you both hate. ParkSeason Get some company for a walk in the parks and woods. And the social network of facial hair lovers Bristlr Finds the guy with the coolest beard.
How to proceed: For starters, put your best picture on your avatar. The dress code of social networks says: you have to look a little bit worse than in real life but better than your friends 😊 This way Mitch will notice you among other girls and won't be disappointed when he meets you in real life.
Two, don't think of conditional Tinder as a marketplace and remember what you came for. Also, the longer you use an app, the worse it works for you. The algorithm may take a lot of your swipes to the left as being picky, which means it will start expanding your search preferences and tucking in options you didn't initially like. You have to please you somehow.
Third, don't be a cheapskate for "hearts": because the profile changes and evolves depending on your preferences.
If you and a mate have a mutual sympathy (yay!), you shouldn't write "hi, how are you?". You already like each other, so why all this dancing with tambourines? Suggest a date right away, or ask about hobbies. By the way, the algorithms read which users exchange phone numbers and social network pages – it also helps the program find the love of your life.
The pitfalls: If you like everyone but don't write to anyone, the app thinks you just want compliments and reciprocal likes.
For this, it may lower your page rating. For the same reason, many applications block viewing more than a hundred profiles per day.
7. Send him a valentine
Technology certainly helps us find new love. But what if you already have someone in mind? We advise you to put away your phone (as soon as you finish our article) and not to forget about romance. To move a relationship from online to real, a good old self-made postcard with a confession.
How to proceed: The first thing to do is to cut out a Valentine's card. Now make it special. Write a few words for that: just don't let the chorus of butterflies living in your stomach scream – describe your feelings clearly, but sincerely. For the finale, add a secret ingredient to the message – spritz the valentine with your favorite perfume so that the smell will forever be remembered as "yours" by him. Don't forget to put your Instagram nickname or VKontakte name, otherwise the message will remain anonymous.
The next step is to send. If you study at the same school or university, you should have special anonymous boxes where lovers throw their confessions on February 14. No one stops you from taking the initiative and making the box yourself: you need an old shoe box, glue, glitter, and knowledge of the 5th grade art. An easier, but more dangerous option: sneak the cardboard into his backpack, jacket, or (if you're a trained ninja) into his pants pocket.
The pitfalls: The card could go to his namesake or the person who handed out valentines. Who knows, maybe this is your destiny!
No social network or personalized dating app can replace eternal values: a "lucky" dress, a message to your girlfriend about a first kiss, your favorite perfume, which will always be associated with you and your first date, such as AmorAmor by Cacharel.
Tender like first love, and sweet like first kiss… Fragrance AmorAmor has long been a symbol not just of falling in love, but of a happy and long love story.