Today we talk about having sex for the first time.
To start off let me answer a question that you may have in mind.
I titled this article "Learning to have sex: go from beginner to expert."..
Is it really possible?
No, of course not.
I wanted to put a somewhat provocative title but, for sure, having this information will make you make an avalanche of steps ahead of other guys virgins like you who, at best, try to "form" with porn movies, which is absolutely not recommended.
And, despite "No one is born unlearned, I can promise you that, reading this article, tYou'll feel much more prepared and relaxed when the time comes.
Well…let's get started…
In fact… before you even start. If you were to take home even one piece of advice.., equip yourself with a condom, and learn how to use it as although extremely easy, you need to learn some basic things like Unroll it and put it in the correct way.
Okay, after that due introduction, let's really get started.
How to learn to make love: 5 tips for the first time
1. Relax
"Eh Gio you make it easy, how can I relax if I don't know what I'm doing?"
Of course, you can't expect to be as calm as an experienced lover. This would not be realistic.
There are some things you can do for manage your performance anxiety.
For one thing documented. Having some knowledge about what you're doing will make you feel safer: reading this article is a first step, but don't stop there.
Secondly start meditating, it will calm your anxieties. If you feel particularly anxious there are also some supplements such as, for example, rhodiola and valerian, which can help a little bit (but of course consult your doctor).
Thirdly Set her expectations.
Most likely if you are a virgin so is she. And if she is not, she has accepted the fact that you are and she is okay with it because she likes you physically.
Not because she thinks you're going to be the new Rocco Siffredi.
So if it's normal for you to be nervous, keep that in mind.
Simply call the elephant in the room, as they say in technical jargon.
Jokingly tell her something along the lines of
"Make sure you don't make any commitments, because even though it's my first time it could take hours and hours".
And then if you come right away you can again tell her something like…
"Look what you did. You ruined my first performance. Be ashamed of yourself".
Phrases of this type are what we call in technical jargon "self amusement" o "self deprecation".
Basically, if you show her that you're shitting yourself because you're afraid of making a bad impression, she will lose attraction.
While if you show that you can give a shit about your problem his attraction will increase.
Having this attitude will then help you to be more relaxed.
2. Be equipped with a condom
We've already talked about the fact that you need to have a condom on before you start having sex, but I'll remind you that it's best to.
"Practice" putting on a condom first. When I say "first" I mean alone at home.
Because?
Although it is easy the first time can be a challenge. And if that happens you risk losing your erection so do your homework.
3. Learn to do foreplay
This is not the right article to talk about foreplay.
In fact, the talk about foreplay is very important and very lengthy. In fact, it is very important that you learn how to do foreplay competently, slowly, and going to stimulate all erogenous zones.
This is not the right article to talk about such a fundamental topic, so I suggest you look for a specific article here on the site.
4. Equip yourself with a lubricant
If you do foreplay well she should be nice and wet.
In any case, if you're nervous, she might be nervous. And that might make it dry.
That is why it is very important to have the lubricant with you.
You can use it both to lubricate her and to get inside her more easily.
5. Learn this position
One of the biggest, and understandable, anxieties of a virgin man is the fear of not being able to get inside her.
All the advice about learning how to have sex is helpful for sure, but it's of little use if you can't get into.
The easiest position to get into is this one below…
To get in, don't try to aim your penis at her hole. Aim instead at the "top" of the vagina.
Then let it go down slowly and you will see that it will enter naturally, especially with a good level of lubrication.
Well, given the advice for sex, let's now move on to other important topics.
Places to have sex the first time
As far as places to have sex are concerned, there are many.
In any case, I don't recommend being too creative the first time.
There will be time to do it but, the first time, it makes no sense to insert any more particular element.
Might as well go with the classics.
So, unless you are forced to do it in the car, better a simple bedroom.
The only shrewdness you need to have is to "set the scene," as they say in technical jargon, i.e make the bedroom romantic.
If you do not know how to do around you find many articles on the subject. It's not rocket science anyway. Simply order, cleanliness, music, soft lighting, candles, incense, etc.
A note since we talked about the car: desperate times call for desperate measures, but if you can avoid it, it is better to. This is because the car is uncomfortable and therefore can put you in a bind the first few times.
Positions to start
We have already seen the best position to start.
In any case, if you feel like experimenting a bit more you can try other simple positions such as the missionary, doggy style and cowgirl (she above).
With this information "leaving" should be easier and stress free.
In any case if you want to learn how to have sex at its best I recommend that you continue to follow me and document yourself.
Before closing, let's talk about another important topic.
Contraceptive systems
As an old adage used to say
"In life taking it in that place is a flash.".
And since I'm guessing you don't want unwanted pregnancies even before you start your sex life, I suggest you protect yourself.
I leave you this link to learn how to put on a condom.
And, in case there is good communication between you and if you are in a relationship, you can have her read this article.
Well, that's it for today.
Good luck and see you soon,
Gio