Within the earlier article we talked in regards to the significance of the precept of reciprocity or counterexchange, i.e. the precept that drives human beings to pay again those that provide them worth of any variety.
The precept of reciprocity is due to this fact the mechanism that makes the seduction flip, however it may be utilized in two alternative ways, and these two methods deliver with them a number of causes to behave, totally different find out how to relate to the opposite intercourse, and totally different actions.
On the one hand we due to this fact have the pure seduction, The seduction of the actual man, who makes use of the precept in a method.
On the opposite we have now the manipulative seduction, exploiting the precept in one other method.
Understanding the distinction is important to not fall into the abyss of manipulative seduction, with all of the damaging penalties that it brings with it.
Let's take a traditional instance and see what position the precept of reciprocation performs.
A person meets a girl in a membership and the very first thing he does is to purchase her a drink to beg her approval.
On this case, though not realizing it, this man exploit (higher: want to exploit) the precept of reciprocity.
Wherein method?
Supply one thing to the woman and anticipating it to reciprocate with one thing else, be it approval, 5 minutes speaking, kindness, and many others. and many others.
What’s the drawback?
The issue is that the actual motive for this provide of worth (paying for drinks) is to need one thing in return. In different phrases, the motion will not be an finish in itself, will not be achieved for the pleasure of doing so, however is finished as a result of it’s anticipated in return.
So, on this case, you do one thing to solicit a response within the different individual, a response that ought to result in obtain from the return worth.
All that is achieved for purely egocentric causes.
You could not have seen, however we simply enunciated the primary mechanism of manipulative seduction.
The mechanism of manipulative seduction is to behave with a purpose to generate a response within the different, a response that ought to result in obtain worth in return.
The explanations for this motion are purely egocentric.
Why I say "purely"?
As a result of selfishness and altruism are sometimes not properly separable from one another, however on this case the distinction is obvious as a result of the motion has as its finish solely the well-being of those that carry out it, not of the opposite.
Did you discover the humorous factor?
Shopping for a girl a drink to beg for her approval and manipulative seduction, with all its methods, are principally the identical factor why come up from the very same dynamic: the soliciting of a response to get worth for purely egocentric functions.
The one who carries out manipulative and sick seduction does the identical factor because the one who affords a drink to a girl as a result of he considers her superior: what adjustments are solely the methods wherein the motivations of the motion are expressed, the manipulative seducer does it in a extra refined and elaborated method.
There may be additionally one other consequence: the manipulative seducer offers much less worth than he needs to obtain, as if it had been a negotiation, a sale, wherein he "cheats the customer". So his will not be a real giving worth, however turns right into a take worth.
So:
Manipulative seduction = taking worth
However let's see now what works in pure seduction.