Each person receives continuous socia feedbacki.e. he receives continuous "feedback information" about The effect your actions have on others.
When you make a joke and a woman laughs, that's social feedback.
When you use a seduction technique and a woman sends you a signal of interest, that's social feedback.
But feedback is also much more subtle, it is also all those micro-signals that each person keeps sending without realizing it.
You don't think you see them?
In reality you do see them but usually are not read on a conscious level.
What does this mean?
Meaning, unless you've studied nonverbal language, your intuition keeps reading these signals from people without you consciously reading them.
Let me give you an example: let's say you give a speech in public and at the end a friend of yours asks you how it went, and you answer him "Not so good, the audience didn't seem very interested.".
How did you manage to make such a judgment? You set yourself up to think "that one's expression was like this, the other's arms were like that"?
No, you have done unconsciously and instinctively, in automatic!
Our brain is a marvelous machine for many reasons, and when it comes to reading social feedback it does a truly amazing job.
Now, we have posited as a given that our brains read social feedback, but there are different ways of handling them.
Depending on how you manage this feedback your seduction can be disadvantageous or advantageous, let's see the matter in detail..
The three feedbacks
Making a general distinction, we classify the reading of social feedback in 3 categories: exaggerated reading, correct reading, poor reading.
Men normally, as far as seduction is concerned, have a poor reading of social feedback.
Simply put: they don't know how to properly read the positive or negative signals a woman sends them.
More generally, however, in relationships with other people, men have a correct reading of social feedback, apart from a few cases.
You know those men who, for example, keep talking not realizing that they are boring others? Here, that type of man has a poor reading of social feedback.
When a man begins to learn seduction begins to see lots of feedback, he starts to notice a lot of signs of interest, and that's good.
However, there is a danger, the danger that you exaggerate the reading of interest signals and social feedback in general.
In other words, there is a danger that it concentrates too much on reading these signals and that, consequently, it bases its state of mind on themShe gives you positive signals?
Good, you're happy. She gives you negative signals? You get down on yourself.
This is obviously not good, that's why every time I explain the signals of interest I always say: "Signals should only be seen, not looked for assiduously", but then I know that I am not immediately listened to and then comes the need to explain well the issue.
What it means in practice?
In practice it means that if you want to seduce a woman, you don't have to give her any feedback too much pay attention to the feedback you get from her, the positive and negative signals.
"Not too much" is the magic word, because obviously you don't have to give too little either.
So notice the signs but do not depend on them, virtue lies in the middle, and with practice this right middle will become increasingly clear to you.