What is the difference between positive attitude e forced self-talk?
Given the doubts raised in the previous article we see the difference between the two things..
Have a positive attitude It means having aOptimistic and proactive attitude towards challenges. It means not "throwing yourself down", it means always aiming for the top, always realizing that failing is still possible.
This is very different fromforced self-doubt, which aims to make you believe that you are some kind of superman who can do everything and never fails, which aims to make you think that it is enough to be 100% convinced not to fail, and tries to force these absurd beliefs into your brain.
But let's take a specific situation.
Situation: you want to attract a woman but you have some anxiety and you are hesitant.
How do you apply a positive attitude to the situation?
You can tell yourself phrases along the lines of: "Come on, no more mental wanking!" and go to her, you grow a pair and you are optimistic about the outcome, focusing on the victory and not on the blocks that would prevent you from going to get what you desire.
This kind of attitude is then used in the moment to deal with situations, whether they are seductive challenges or moments in life in general.
In fact, as we have explained, this kind of attitude is not only very useful but also damn attractive because a man who does not throw himself down and faces the world with positivity is a man who is very much liked by the opposite sex.
It's an attitude realist that in seeing the glass half full has however well aware that there is the possibility of failure.
What is quite different is trying to forcefully convince themselves to make it, to be able to conquer all the women who want, never fail, and other similar crap.
No matter how much you tell yourself these things, your brain will never believe us.
And, what's worse, it will create an conflict within between what you would like to believe and what your brain really thinks.
Guys, I tell you from the heart, I have seen men disturbed by this internal conflict.
These men had a lot of insecurities but lied to themselves trying to convince themselves they didn't have them.
They were trying to get it into their heads that "they could have any woman they wanted" and the internal conflict made their communication, their way of doing things, really weird.
To compensate for these insecurities they would take on a behavior almost like bullies, they bully and looked down on people, all signs of strong insecurity for those who can read them.
This is a path you should never take, insecurities should be faced, not denied by trying to convince yourself you're superman.
Fatality…this type of forced self-talk has a lot of appeal to very insecure and uncommunicative people.
For compensation these people they go from one side to the other, go from being insecure to wanting to feel like absolute cool, and that hurts, hurts, hurts.
This is certainly not the right way to change, in the next article we will see in fact healthy and effective ways to implement a stable and lasting change.
Reborn
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