There are many seduction techniques, there are for all tastes, and today I want to talk to you about the most "right", because in a way it does some justice.

To understand this technique we must take a step back and find out what are the dynamics that make it work.

As you know, the development of the species, in nature, is based on the natural selection.

Individuals with better traits tend to survive better and therefore their genes tend to be passed from generation to generation through reproduction.

But genes are also selected by means of the sexual selection: individuals with better characteristics come chosen more easily for mating.

Put another way: the animal with the best traits will survive better and mate more because females prefer traits that facilitate survival.

In humans the situation is similar but much much more complicated than in animals, and to understand the concept let's stay on these last ones.

From Darwin to seduction techniques

In the study of natural and sexual selection dear old Darwin found an animal that seemed (seemed) do not follow these rules.

He found a species in which females seemed to choose males not based on traits that would facilitate survival, rather..

What is the animal in question?

Animal symbolic of seduction..

There's even a word coined about his name…what do you say about a man when he's "being cool"?

They are said to "strut their stuff"!

The animal is therefore the peacock!

Why this animal escapes the rules? And that technique of seduction is derived?

As you may know the courtship ritual of the peacock consists of the male opening his beautiful tail and showing it to the female.

The females, as we have seen, choose peacocks with the most beautiful and longest tail.

The long tail however is not a characteristic that facilitates survival, on the contrary, make it more difficult for the peacock to escape from predators!

Not only that, there are other species of birds in which females prefer males with longer tails but it has been seen that these tails make it more difficult to catch insects to feed themselves.

Why all this?

Because females of these species prefer males with something that makes survival difficult?

At the beginning two were the theories that went for the greater, the theory of the good genes and that of sexy son.

Good genes: according to this theory, the peacockesses chose the most handsome males (with the most beautiful tails) because they appeared more healthy.

Sexy Son: according to this theory, peacock women chose prickly tails because then their sons would have long tails and be chosen by other females, thus to have a more sexually attractive son.

Later, however, emerged a third theory, which was immediately ridiculed, but later was also supported by mathematical models.

This is the theory on which is based the seduction technique that we are going to see: the theory of handicap.

According to this theory characteristics such as the peacock's tail serve to make females understand that despite the handicap the male has survived, therefore he must have superior qualities to others.

The heavier the handicap, the more it indicates other good qualities.

And now let's move on to mankind

Let's take for absurdity two athletes very similar, as character and performance, who won the gold medal at the Olympics.

The difference lies in the fact that one of the two in his teens was sick and as a result of an illness and a difficult surgery was about to lose the use of his leg. However, thanks to training and constant commitment can reach the same results as the other.

Who you admire the most? The one who has never had any problems or the one who, despite problems, has achieved the same results as the other guy?

The second one obviously!

We admire all those who, despite the difficulties, have been successful.

This is demonstrated by a classic stereotype in Western society: the self-made man!

And a woman?

Even a woman will find the second one more attractive.

Because?

First because the handicap shows her that the second probably has much more willpower and tenacity than the first, so it has more attractive characteristics.

In second place because it has already faced a great difficulty and it will have already inside itself the strategies in order to face other of it, in case of if of it were to be repeated.

These two characteristics are very attractive.

So?

What is the technique?

The technique of seduction is to look for some of your "handicap", so some disadvantage that:

  • you had and you have overcome
  • You had and still have, but despite that you got where you are now

After having chosen it you can tell it to the women you want to seduce.

This should not be done at the beginning of the attraction phase because often these are personal things.

You can do this at the end of the attraction phase or in the rapport.

It's a little bit the redemption of the unlucky :-), that they can use some disadvantageous thing to their advantage, for this I define the technical as "right", because in some way it makes justice.

Besides creating attraction, it also creates a strong connection because you admit to a weakness of yours, past or present, and this makes her feel closer to you and open up in turn.

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