Dear guys, today we are talking about theindirect approach, a type of approach that can give great satisfaction!
Let's start from its definition: the indirect approach, for those who don't know it, is the kind of approach in which you don't give any demonstration of interest.
It differs totally from the direct approach, in which you show your interest from the very first moment. If you want to learn more about all types of approaches you can read this article written by Reborn.
Practical examples of an indirect approach
Back to us, an indirect approach can be done through the simplest of requests that any person can do, whether shy or bravado.
It can be, for example, the request for a street information or about the monument of the city, the request of the time or the banal and very used one of a cigarette, or even a simple comment on the place where you are.
I make you some practical examples to make an indirect approach:
- "Excuse me, could you show me the way to the Duomo?"
- "Hey excuse me a question, I'm new in town, can you tell me what is the shortest way for Via ..?"
- "Wow, this is a great club, I've never been here before, you come here often?"
- "Oh my goodness had I known everyone was going to be so elegant I would have worn a tux tonight , but it's always so elegant people here?"
As you can see are very simple phrases, that they can come naturally to you at any time And so you don't have to think about it too much.
This type of approach is especially recommended for shy people or the seduction novices, because it is much easier and less "traumatic" to start with an indirect approach compared to a semi-direct or direct.
In a nutshell, using this type of approach, we manage to get out of our comfort zone and to interact with others more easily in different situations.
Some people, however, prefer the indirect approach to any other approach in any situation, partly disproving the common belief I mentioned before, according to which this kind of indirect approach would be suitable only for people who have to fight against shyness or for those who have just started studying seduction.
What is the reason for this belief?
The assumption is a direct or semi-direct approach might "scare" you away too much the girl in question.
It actually depends on many things, I personally use all types of approach:
- The indirect approach when I feel less confident and in situations where a direct approach is less suitable, such as the bus stop
- the direct approach when instead I feel much more confident and feel that I can show my intentions right away
It is very important to follow your feelings of the moment, your flair and your instincts that will be refined with experience.
Although the indirect approach is not the "bravest" among the types of approach and will not be remembered for being the most brilliant of all time, what do we care about its awesomeness if it leads us to talk to a girl!?
That will come later, with experience!
My advice is definitely to try and try again the indirect approach to get out of your comfort zone, doing it in the way that YOU you feel more right.
If you do very well in the indirect approach is fine, it is important not to strive to do things that you do not feel inside, go ahead in stages, you will see that the most brilliant and spectacular approaches will come later!
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