I’m positive you possibly can keep in mind the sensation of being in reference to a lady, These moments when there’s a so strongly attuned that appears virtually "magical".
However as lovely as it may be, "magic" is in no way, if it had been so it might be one thing inexplicable, one thing mysterious and with out guidelines.
It might be one thing that, nevertheless lovely, is uncontrollable, or there’s or there’s not indifferently from our will.
As a substitute the connection between two individuals is one thing that’s learnable and reproducible.
There are numerous components that contribute to the creation of this connection, consequently there are varied strategies to extend it.
One is what I name a "lazy" approach of doing it, as a result of it's the simplest approach of all and requires you to do nearly nothing.
Good eh? Lazy!
However let's see what that is actually about
As you recognize, flirting usually depends on the "unstated". It’s primarily based subsequently on probably the most historic communication that we’ve, subsequently non verbal communication: paraverbal ( how we are saying issues) and physique language.
Between the 2, physique language has the higher hand so of all types of communication physique language is what counts most in seduction.
Once I say that seduction is predicated on the unstated I imply all seduction, subsequently every stageStrategy-Attraction-Report-Closing games-Relationship, in all these phases there’s the unstated that performs a key function.
Of the function it performs within the Strategy section, we've already talked about it in Immediate Attraction, giving the fundamentals of nonverbal language within the method. There's nonetheless extra to debate, there's nonetheless quite a bit to elucidate, however for now it's vital that you recognize the fundamentals.
From the function it performs within the Attraction section, we’ve already talked about it within the publication, in varied articles on physique language resembling this and this, and within the articles of the primary superior attraction approach, the strategy of silence.
It’s now time to speak concerning the unstated within the rapport section, section through which one should creating connection, and we discuss simply from the silence approach to grasp find out how to use it on this section, so we take the strategy of superior attraction, and use it within the rapport.
Think about you're speaking to a woman after to have created attraction.
You might be rapporting vast and deep and speaking about so many issues and getting alongside rather well collectively.
That is fantastic, additionally as a result of after you've carried out attraction and rapport correctly you may get her quantity and be just about positive she'll reply whenever you name her again.
However… however there’s all the time a danger, the chance of speaking an excessive amount of, speaking an excessive amount of to maintain the well-known "awkward silence" from taking place.
In rapport the "awkward silence" might be one thing very unhealthy or one thing to very helpful, every thing relies on how you’re taking it, by the way you react to it.
Individuals ask me, "The best way to keep away from awkward silences?"
I say, "Make them occur the awkward silences!" 😉
Higher but… to remove awkward silences you are able to do two issues:
1. Remove the silences
2. Remove the awkwardness.
Each methods are helpful, and it's good to know each of them; in Immediate Attraction we talked about find out how to keep it up a dialog (and subsequently the primary approach), now let's speak about the second.
The silence is just not embarrassing in itself, as if embarrassment had been a top quality of silence!
Embarrassment is your emotional response to silence!
For those who present that you’re embarrassed and also you are you ashamed of your embarrassment you talk one thing to her that you’re not related sufficient to share the silence. Dangerous factor eh?
However you possibly can act in a different way as a substitute: you might be quiet for a couple of seconds and look into her eyes with depth.
This results in two issues:
- The creation of the connection
- The amplification of sexual pressure
Two birds with one stone.
And since I name it the "lazy" approach?
Since you don't need to do virtually something! Nothing sophisticated at the very least, you simply need to shut up for a couple of seconds and look her within the eyes, thus creating the sensation of "We don't want phrases, we perceive one another with out speaking", a typical feeling of {couples}!
And growth! Robust connection established. Lazy!