It's a pretty common thing: a man starts to get better at seduction, to engage, to change then the way he behaves, and friends try to sabotage him.
They see him messing around with strange girls and start making heavy jokes either in front of the girl, to ruin his interaction and make themselves "cool" by trying to discredit him, or in the absence of other people.
If it happens to you with your friends, I suggest you first realize that it is one of theirs defense mechanism, this will help you not fight with her.
It's a defense mechanism because if you are in a group of people who are not very successful with women, any attempt to change the situation is thrown in their face.
If everyone in a group has a problem, the problem suddenly becomes a little less oppressive and it seems that no one can do anything about it, it seems that you can't change.
So, who doesn't change, is not one who doesn't try is just a victim of fate, chance, destiny, and doesn't have the slightest responsibility of his condition.
On the other hand, when one tries to rise from his or her condition, he or she breaks this sick and disempowering harmony of the group and the others instinctively try to sabotage him or her.
If this person is a shy person trying to change, the negative attitude of his friends won't help him for sure, on the contrary, it will be very hard for him to remain unperturbed and not be influenced, especially in front of a girl.
Why?
Because instinctively a man He seeks approval from his group, it's an ancient instinct and very very strong, so at the first signs of non-acceptance by the group a part of him Will push to "get back on track" feeling a social pressure too strong to be endured.
What to do then?
How to solve in practice?
Let's look at the situation of Andrea Red
Reb….I forgot……Qunado I'm alone I can joke with creativity and also make subtle ironic jokes(as you say in the article)….You think that thanks to your advice I can stand up to three girls at the same time (from a joking point of view……I mean:-D)……But when I'm with my loser friends I joke like them…And so from Lame……It's a lack of personality ?Or is it time to expand, increase and modify the standard of people I hang out with? Thank you very much!
In this case it's not lack of personality his, it's instinct to align with the group, such a strong instinct to give these effects.
The thing to do then is not to abandon friends completely, this should be done only in extreme cases, at the threshold of relationships that need therapy, but find also other friends, new friends.
So find at least one person who is interested in meeting new girls and throw yourself at it.
It is not necessary that from the beginning you explain all the talk of seduction, may be skeptical, so if you prefer you can do it in small doses, the important thing is to practice at first.
Then meet other people in general, take classes, do sports, in short, broaden your knowledge in the round.
Do not want to hurt your friends, especially if they are friends who have known you for years and years, understand that sometimes it is their instincts that drive them, but at the same time work to bypass the problem.
(aka Reborn)
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