Do you know what feedback is?
Feedback feedback of something we do or do not do, this concept is found very often in different fields but what interests us is to know that i in our case the feebacks are the signals or referral behaviors of a person or persons to our behavior.
Feedback in seduction and personal development is FON-DA-MEN-TA-LE.
Why?
Because we refer to it to check how much a behavior of ours is in line with the goal we want to achieve.
For example: if one of our behaviors causes generally (and I emphasize "generally") a reaction of liking (positive feedback) by women, then we can rightly assume that that behavior is useful if we want to conquer women!
Conversely, if we behave in a certain way and receive a disapproving reaction, again generally speaking, we can rightly assume that such behavior is counterproductive to conquering a woman ( Negative feedback ).
It is important to point out, however, that following feedback too much can be harmful because it puts you at the mercy of other people's reactions, so it should only be used as a reference, without being a slave to it. For example when you try to figure out if a woman likes you, it's okay to try to figure it out, it's not okay to be a slave to it all.
It's also important to note that you often don't have to consciously think about feedback but your instincts will work for you, you'll find an article in the Premium Group where it's explained in depth.
But back to the matter at hand…
Miche11, to whom I wrote to ease the pressure on a girl, wrote to me in a reply comment what follows:
"In practice what can I do to: take a step back, try again and make her feel comfortable (with less pressure)?"
Let's explain the issues well…
You are seducing a girl, she starts to give you some signs of interest and you continue to pull the rope even more, to push, to carry on the seduction in a fast way.
Unless you are already smitten, you might start to raise your defenses, this is because?
Because for her you are rushing it too much and she may be afraid of feeling easy.
So what to do?
- Drop everything?
- Play it cool and try again?
- Leaving her there running home to write Niko?
Ahahah all kidding aside!
The solution is to take a step back , I said take a step back do not stop trying, so if with light flirting she gave positive signals and then as you tried harder she started to put up a barrier, you go back to light flirting again and then try again when you feel it is time.
To return to the feedback argument
- Positive feedback: keep trying
- Negative feedback: take a step back and try again
This is because? Because by doing so she will feel less pressure on her and therefore feel comfortable. In the end it's just about going a little slower when necessary, nothing more.
With experience your instincts will work for you and you will figure out for yourself how to calibrate your approach.
Finally, remember that seduction is not a linear process, but more of a dance made up of conflicting feedback (both negative and positive) so as always, theory is fine, but if accompanied by common sense and intuition, once understood, your instincts will work for you and you will not even have to think about it, nice, huh??
So:
- Beware of feedback
- Calibrate yourself according to the feedback, if necessary take a step back and start again more calmly
- Don't get too fossilized and let your instincts work for you
A hug
Niko