In a remark Paolo he wrote:
[…]Essentially the most essential second, for my part, is to know when and if there’s the passage from the part of attraction to that of rapport. […]
Clearly Paolo has learn the web page that explains the levels of seduction, which I counsel you do when you’ve got not already had a take a look at it.
We’ve already mentioned that within the attraction part we flirt and a lady classifies us as a attainable companion, within the rapport part we create empathy and we actually know one another.
If as a substitute of making attraction you go straight to rapport you find yourself within the friendship zone. It is a large drawback that afflicts most males.
Paolo rightly requested when to move from the attraction part to the rapport part, as a result of in case you do it too early you danger ending up within the friendship zone.
In the meantime I thank Paul for the query and I take this chance to congratulate all of you who’re asking good questions, serving to me to know what just isn’t clear to you.
I invite you as at all times to ask any query you need, I do know that on the market this stuff are usually not defined by anybody so benefit from me .
So let's transfer on to the theme of the put up.
To start with a clarification, Paul writes:
[…] when and if there’s the passage from the phase […]
It’s not essential to say "if there’s" the passage, as a result of it’s true that typically it occurs spontaneously, however many different instances it doesn’t occur and due to this fact we’re the boys who need to make it occur, main the seduction.
Talking as a substitute of the problem of when transfer from one part to a different, the only reply I may give you is "You need to transfer on to rapport when she is sufficiently attracted."
Clearly two issues come up, the primary is "What does it imply sufficiently?"The second is "How do I do know the attraction has reached the extent you need (sufficiently)?"
Relating to the primary query, I might say "She is sufficiently attracted when she likes you and could be able to kiss you".
As a result of I mentioned "could be"?
Why for some ladies, attraction is sufficient to go for a kiss, with out the rapport. However then if you wish to evaluate them, particularly if you wish to get to the sexual relationship, it’s worthwhile to transfer on to rapport.
Then there are ladies who they want rapport to get kissed. However it additionally relies upon rather a lot on the context. If they’re in a social context the place they need to keep a sure fame, then would require extra rapport to not really feel like "straightforward" ones.
If, alternatively, nobody is aware of them, for instance on trip, have a tendency to not require rapport, particularly in case you meet them in nightclubs corresponding to discos. This is among the explanation why ladies on trip are simpler.
For completeness, there’s one other class of girls who don’t want rapport even to indulge sexually, excellent class for one evening stands. In Italy, nevertheless, they’re a minority.
Concluding this level: if a lady is inclined to kiss you, that’s the time to maneuver on to rapport.
Watch out although: a lady is prepared for a kiss a lot a lot a lot before most males suppose. So in case you're with a lady and also you suppose it's time to kiss her, it's normally been time for some time 😉 .
Relating to the second query, the right way to perceive if she likes you, I might reply in two methods.
First: you may take a look at the alerts of curiosity she sends you and when she has given you 3 of them you progress on to the rapport. Take this quantity as a sign, with time you’ll perceive higher and higher which alerts are extra necessary and that are much less, in order to maneuver first to the rapport.
Secondly, as a substitute of seeing the varied alerts rationally, you possibly can let your instincts see them and belief them. In different phrases, once you really feel that the woman is into it, transfer on to the rapport.
If there’s something unclear I invite you to ask me some questions.