Did it ever happen to you that a woman to reject you, instead of telling you a dry "No, I don't like you"has given you a less strong motivation?
Have you ever tried to hit on a woman and heard, as a rejection, something that sounds like an excuse?
The reality is that it happens a lot, especially if there is some bond of friendship between you.
The phrases that for example you may hear are:
"It's not you… it's me… it's a bad period"
"At this time I don't want to be with anyone"
"Look it's a time when I have to focus a lot on my study / my work / my cat / my goldfish"
And you want to know what the beauty is? That a lot of men believe in it! And then when they see her a few days later out and about with someone else they feel mocked, as if she had told them a lie.
The reality is another.
For a woman most often maintaining harmony and social peace are more important than the truth. To put it bluntly: for a woman what concerns human relationships is more important than anything else.
Women are programmed for an managing social relationships much better than men, They have a empathic capacity and an ability to "read" others who far outperform any man.
Not only that, they feel in a very strong way every disturbance in harmony with other people, and therefore within the groups. Sure, some times they can be ruthless, especially towards other women, but now we are making a general speech to understand the difference between men and women.
Given this natural predisposition towards human relationships and this instinctive indisposition towards any event that could undermine them, the feminist phrase "If women ruled, there would be no wars" acquires a certain validity.
But let's come to us: when a woman instead of answering a dry "No, I don't like you" invents something less hard, she is really lying to you?
According to male canons: yes, she's lying to you.
But she is not a man (unless you were mistaken, maybe you were drunk ) and therefore does not think in these terms. His first concern is not to undermine human relationships, that's why he proposes you a more "politically correct" justification, something that won't break your bond of friendship, or even simple acquaintance.
But there is also another reason: if a beautiful woman would say dryly to men who try, "No, I don't like you", in most cases they would stop trying, and so what would happen?
She would no longer receive social validation, and a woman lives on social validation. She lives of being considered nice, beautiful, intelligent, charming and being loved by everyone, this is her paradise in a social terms.
So to make sure you don't lose validation she gives excuses, excuses that often hint that there is still some chance of success with her, so men keep trying, even if they really have no hope.
You want to crucify women for this?
It would be like putting a cat on the cross because it purrs.