You hit on a woman and she's not into it, you try to seduce a woman and he tells you no.
Then you meet her again, maybe even hang out with her because you're in the same company of friends, and.. you feel embarrassed.
Here is what it asks Michael in a comment:
Hello Marco, how would you behave with a girl who told you no to go out but you see her every day, impertubility pill and do as if nothing happened?
A little awkwardness is always there I think, and it's hard to handle, what do you think?
How to overcome the problem?
I'll tell you right now that you don't need to overcome the problem since you there is absolutely no problemyou have no reason to feel embarrassed and I assure you that when you realize a couple of very simple things that I will tell you in a moment you will never feel embarrassed in these situations again, on the contrary!
Mind you, this statement is not a motivational or rhetorical thing, it is the observation of something very simple: you create, for no reason, your embarrassment and you can eliminate it in a flash.
There are no real reasons
The truth is, there's no real reason for you to feel self-conscious about it.
Seriously think about it: you=man she=woman, nature made us to reproduce and so you tried with her, what's the problem?
You have to be proud of your sentimental and sexual desires and needs! But what are we in middle ages??!!
Avoid being ashamed if you tried and she wasn't there, on the contrary, if you didn't try, there you should be ashamed 😉 .
The ninja tryout
The problem arises from a mode of seduction, from a way of conquering women, or rather of not conquer them, which men often use.
Is to try slowly, without implying anything, hoping on one hand that she understands that we're trying, and on the other that she doesn't, because if she does and says no, o mamma mia! Or heck! We ended up! Escape! Run for cover!!!! hahahaha
What is quite different is the indirect approach, which comes from a pure strategic choice, while the "try ninja" that we have just described stems from an unhealthy thinking, the thought that Trying to hit on a woman is something to be a little ashamed of.
- "What if… what if my friends see me?"
- "And now.. I see her often… what do I do? How I greet her?"
- "What if… if she tells her friends?"
- "E… "
What if you realized that you have a penis and she has a vagina?! What if I realized that you were made for this?!
And don't tell me I'm vulgar! I made a pure observation, if you disagree with me on the composition of the human body ask a doctor! hahahha
These unhealthy thoughts lead to a series of negative consequences including:
1. Grey zone
Trying ninja you also risk being for months in the gray zone with a woman, that area in which You try and you don't for fear of making a move. The result is that you waste a lot of time and energy, and even if she likes you, she gets bored.
2. She feels judged
We communicate a lot even when we don't say things explicitly. If inside you have the thought that there is something "dirty" or "shameful" in trying and seduction, she will feel it! She'll feel it and she definitely won't concede easily, she'll feel judged and not free.
How to resolve?
In addition to implementing everything I've told you you can do something very practical: the next 5 times you hit on a woman make it explicit, to her and to all the people around.
If you still feel ashamed quietly, you can do it by joking about it with phrases like:
- "Oh god I'm in love with you"
- "You are the only woman in the world"
- "Marry me now" 😉
Showing your sexual desires and needs will express your masculine energy and free you from the medieval thought that in seduction and trying there is something "shameful".
What do you say? There is still some woman you have us with tried in the past and you feel embarrassed??!!
I told you: make it explicit and joke about it, yes even about him rejecting you, you have no idea how powerful this thing is, do it in front of other people and it will be even more powerful because you will let go of the fear of other people's judgment!
- "Damn girls your friend broke my heart"
- "I swear I cried all night." hahah
- "After your no I decided to become a priest"
I'll even tell you that if you do it in front of her friends, you don't lose points in their eyes, but you gain points! Sure: you'll be one of the few men who not only isn't ashamed to hit on her, but isn't even ashamed to admit that he got a "no" because he even jokes about it.
"Oohhh, who is this hunk of a man??"
A reader of SeduzioneAttrazione.com, baby! 😉
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