Today I'm writing an article for our slightly older readers.
Many of you are in your 40s, perhaps coming out of a relationship or marriage, and rightly want to get back on track.
Often when you are coming out of a long term relationship, but even if you have been single for quite some time, you are not the most sociable person in this world. Also as you get older it may seem that the chances of meeting people organically are greatly diminished.
Once upon a time there was school, university, going out to clubs, recurring outings with friends.
All this brings a constant flow of women in your life and, whether you have the tools and knowledge to seduce them or not, when this is lacking you feel the decrease in opportunities.
Since encounters, once almost automatic, now seem to be more difficult and rare, the temptation to rely on the internet in search of adult chat can be strong.
Today we're going to see if the internet is a good idea for a mature man, what's out there, and if there are better alternatives, both online and offline, for meeting women.
So in the first part of the article we will respond to some questions that may grip your head and in any case we'll put you right on the right wayIn the second part we will see the online and offline alternatives.
Let's start with an important premise.
What is a chat for adults?
It may seem like an obvious question, but in fact it's not because, by now, the word chat has taken on an ambiguous meaning for many.
In fact, once upon a time, when we talked about chat, we meant one of those chat rooms where people, often with a fancy nickname, would sign up to have a chat.
There was the private chat room and then there was (what could be the goal) the possibility to send private messages.
For all intents and purposes this should be a chat.
But today in common parlance chat means a little bit of everything and nothing.
In fact, this term is no longer used to refer to a simple chat, but is also used for chat on dating sites (often the same site is defined as a chat), chat on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram, Viber and so on and so forth.
In this article I will use the term chat in a rather wide, sometimes meaning chat, sometimes a dating site but, not to make things complicated, I will try to explain what the site in question always does so as to make smooth reading.
Now let's go and shed some light on many questions you may have.
An over 40 chat is a good place to meet women?
We take as a cue chatover40.com, which seems to be the biggest portal around.
As far as I can see we could define it as an adult chat without registration. With this I mean that it does not come demanded one recording to payment.
Still said in other words we are talking about a free adult chat.
Now, if you notice, we might even call it a serious adult chat room. In fact, at least while I'm writing this article, the portal itself looks like this…
Adult chat. The chatroom of good people. Serious and polite people.
And you might be thinking
"I got bingo. I am interested in finding women and surely there will be women with the same desire as me, that is to meet men."
Plus it's a free adult chat in Italy. Not bad with a quick and easy Google search.
Maybe you are one of those a little rusty with the internet because you come from a long relationship and it's a long time that you do not hang out on sites looking for a woman.
You don't know if sites like this could be scams, after all you hear a lot of them around and you tell yourself…
"What's more, I like this paid chat without registration thing. Maybe I found the right place to meet some women."
Unfortunately things are not exactly so.
In fact, let's see one of the many things that are written about the chat that we have just examined and let's analyze the matter more thoroughly.
"If you arrived here looking for some meeting in an erotic chatline you are really off track and you can leave this page immediately."
Now, I'm not saying you have to be on the hunt for a quickie but here It seems clear that the focus is not on dating between men and women.
Moving on..
"The main characteristic of the chat for adult people over 40 is the textual expression". There are no user profiles with photos, nor the ability to access webcams. The setting is traditional, just to enhance the dialogue
…
We believe that the vast majority of those who connect have in mind to spend time in a relaxing way"
It is apparent that people here want to chat and not meet people for romantic/ sentimental/sexual purposes.
And you might be thinking
"It goes well Gio but you know that one thing leads to another. If one starts by having a chat with a woman and then develops a feeling, why wouldn't he want to meet me?? You are a woman and I am a man, not a woman?"
Leaving aside for a moment the fact that in all likelihood you would end up chatting with women who are geographically far away and to waste time with a woman whose aesthetics you don't know is pure madness..
Simply the ratio effort benefit if you want to know women should make you run like hell from such a portal.
So if you had the naive (I tell you this with affection) belief that just because she is a woman she might have the same desire and instinct as you and consequently that chat could be a good place to meet women..
Let me explain with a metaphor why such a thought is so wrong.
Imagine we have a food sales rep. It's just an example but I decided to give it to you because we all need to eat. Now imagine that, for some silly reason, this is going to visit all the hairdresser stores to offer him first, second, dessert, etc..
Although you'll agree with me that we all need to eat, including the hairdresser, targeting that audience would simply be a bad idea ridiculous and, probably, our representative, even if his food is actually delicious, would be kicked out in a bad way most of the time, because the hairdressers are there to work and not to think about what to put on the table in the evening.
For our representative would be much smarter to go and present at conferences of housewives, or put up a stand in the fairs where you know that many housewives pass by to take a look.
The absurd thing is that, online, there are places with these characteristics. That is with women who are looking for what you have to propose, that is a man.
And there are some men who think signing up for a chat room is a good idea…
Well, I hope I have taken this crazy idea out of your head.
And instead..
Adult dating chat: which is the best?
After a brief search it was evident that the biggest dating site with these features is Parent Single.
Premise (or disclaimer if you prefer): I don't have never personally tested this site since single moms do not interest me particularly.
So the fact that you mention it is not a endorsement and although this site, so skin deep, doesn't particularly smell like a rip-off to me, I always recommend only the major portals (although the results are not guaranteed).
Having said that, the fact of calling yourself a "single parent" already makes an important screening (negative).
That is, a dating site of this type will tend to, guess what?, to attract mostly moms single.
However among the members there will be many mature women without children.
But the point is another: once on a dating site "normal" search by age and you will find women of the age you are interested in but probably with dependent children.
The truth is that these, as long as we are on a stationary ball, that is when you don't know the woman yet, are not exactly the smartest choice in terms of dating.
Because, guess what, just in case I start dating seriously, well…. the children (of another) magically become your problem.
So if you are looking for a relationship I suggest you filter out women with children, simply because it is not the smartest choice I can recommend to one of my students.
So, let's try to understand how the psychology of a woman with children works and see when they can interest us.
A woman who has already had children can generally behave in two ways.
The first is the one where, relieved of her natural role of passing her genes to the next generation, she simply seeks a lover.
The second is the one where she got knocked up by a alpha and now look for a beta to take care of the offspring.
The former may interest us, the latter I would advise against.
So if you:
- you have the cards to use a strategy from lover
- you know exactly how to do it from the technical point of view
- are you willing to filter
- you are not interested in investing some money in paid options
… a site like this can be considered an.
But as you can see there are some things to keep seriously in mind.
In addition to this I want to remind you of one thing. I showed you that site for completeness because, in such an article, it deserved its space.
That said I I have never used it as that target audience is not of my interest.
In other words I am not giving any kind of endorsement to the site in question. I am telling you that if you want to try it you have to do it at your own risk because the fact that you mention it does not mean that I have given it any quality certification.
That being said my gut feeling is that overall as a site it can go. Faced however with the filters of which I have spoken to you and the fact that most likely, due to its physiological characteristics, it is not a site that tends to attract huge numbers at the start.
If you want to test it my advice is to do it anyway within a strategy in which you are also subscribed on other dating sites and this is an outline.
Adult video chats are a good place to meet women?
I must say that I did not even know of its existence.
And there is a good reason for that. Because, when it comes to know women I am interested in what works and I have my serious doubts that this stuff can give a hand to someone.
From what I have been able to understand in research for the writing of the article these videochat are inspired by Chat Roulette.
The name explains enough by itself what you can expect. Basically a video chat where you don't select users by interest but rather you will talk to the next person randomly, and randomly is also the logistical location of the person on the other side.
These two features are enough for me to decree that, if the goal is to meet new women in order to seduce them, this stuff is to be discarded a priori.
That said I found an article that reviews videochat of this type and, if you're curious, I leave it to you at the link below.
Chat Roulette for adults.
"What if you were looking for sex dating sites instead?"
Let me tell you the real truth, i have never tried these sites.
I've never tried them because for me, sex on the first date or the day I meet a woman is not a rare event (as I have demonstrated and I am the only one in Italy to have done so).
Consequently for me a site with women looking for sex is not a big thrill.
Among insiders, the fact that sex when you know what you're doing is everywhere, can happen all the time and quickly, is called the secret society.
In other words, when you're a male beta for you sex is practically a chimera.
When you are an advanced in seduction becomes nothing in particular because the sex is everywhere.
For these reasons sites with this prerogative have never attracted me.
But I have found three for you.
The first one is AdultFinder.
The site comes across a bit ungrammatical but being of a foreign background it may well fit…
"Meet for sex, find to have sex or meet someone really hot."
What is my idea? I'll tell you later.
First let me show you the other two sites i found.
The second one is called Sex&Love Italia.
The title speaks for itself.
The acronym presents it like this…
"Occasional Dating for Adults.
Meet thousands of sex partners in your city with our exclusive 100% effective matching system".
The cover image is a girl who is practically ready to get down to business without even a preliminary drink and who lacks only a vibrator already stuck inside while she is there waiting for you..
Eh… Marketing..
Between dating sites and seduction instructors who lost their virginity four seconds ago, you're a lot of chickens to be plucked… well, in my opinion..
Let's move on to the third site…
It's called Tugging.
Despite the fact that it is presented in a less pushy way than the first two, between name, acronym and cover image, however, the message is clear enough.
The name says it all. If a woman subscribes to such a site can imagine that inside there are men who want to, in fact, tow her.
Of course, when you sign up to Lovoo or Okcupid despite the dress (or the name in this case) does not make the monk the initial expectations are different.
I must say that I Okcupid, abroad mainly, I had sex in a hurry with droves of women so the division is never so clear, but it is clear that if a woman subscribes to Rimorchiando the initial idea is a little 'different.
The theme song with which Rimorchiando proposes itself to its audience is not super pushy, but it still suggests that something can escape..
"Meet men and women looking for love, flirtation and adventures in Italy."
Compared to the other two, it explicitly mentions adventures. Plus if you add the cover image with a woman with a bit of a Marilyn Monroe attitude, red lipstick, looking sexy and dressed practically ready for foreplay, pulling him from the loose tie..
The underlying message is subtle but clear enough.
So in case a woman is looking for a stable relationship, the marketing and the design of the site should push her away.
Don't get me wrong. Inside a certain amount of women looking for a relationship might still be there, but the design of the site should alienate some from signing up.
On the other hand, unfortunately, the land of toys, that ideal world where women just want to have fun and serious and pain in the ass women have been exiled like American prisoners to Australia, does not exist.
If it existed I would be writing from there.
Or rather it exists and is called Las Vegas, but that's another story.
Back to us..
So you should use these sites?
As anticipated I can only tell you my skin sensation, because I have not tried these sites and I do not intend to try them.
And if you're wondering why…well…I'm not sure
Frankly for me at this point going to bed with a stranger is a normal thing. And if we also minimize that thrill of the hunt I'm not so interested.
Apart from this if you want to test them I want to remind you that you do so at your own risk and that I have NOT mentioned these sites in order to suggest them to you, but for completeness of the article.
That said: you want my personal opinion?
Although we have seen how not all portals are explicit in the same way…
Some more or less target men and women who want to sign up to a dating site looking for sex, flirt, adventures.
As far as I'm concerned, as long as you have to pay, the old saying goes for me…
If it's too good to be true it's often just that.
Why I say this?
Well very simple. A pretty woman or girl has an access to sex that is on average much greater than a man.
This implies that a woman of this type don't need to subscribe to sites like that and, most likely, don't even want someone who knows you to see you with a profile on one of these sites.
I can guarantee you that a beautiful woman of 50 years or going towards 50, if she wants, can have guys in their twenties continuously with whom to have adventures.
So… to conclude.
If you really want to try sites that aren't among the biggest, most recognized and famous, it's not the end of the world. At the most, and as long as you make yourself a nice rechargeable card to do your tests, you only have to lose a few euros.
But my advice remains always and exclusively one: focus on the biggest and most famous portals.
In any case, whatever sites you want to join, I guarantee that if you are a normal man you will need an tested strategy to have your chance of success.
So, if you want to learn the same strategy that allowed me to set 18 dates in just two days online, I'll teach it to you here.
"What if you were looking for free dating sites instead?"
I'll explain with a metaphor that you may have heard me use a few times already.
What's the difference between a high-priced nightclub and a free dive bar??
Well there are many actually, but one of them is the best women are in the first club.
The reason is given by the fact that women, biologically, are attracted to the survival resources.
This means that quality women will go to the first club because the cost of entry filters out men who aren't willing to spend that amount in their dating life.
The same goes for dating sites. Not only in the paid ones (provided that really free you find) there are the best women but, frankly, if you are a single adult and the price of these sites is a limit for you, frankly you should put in the list of your priorities to make more money.
Otherwise how do you take women out on dates? Gasoline? Entering clubs for an adult audience? We get it.
Extramarital dating sites
Doing research to write this article I discovered that many men are interested in this topic.
Frankly, if you are one of these, I don't feel like giving you a hand.
If you are married maybe you should reconsider what are your life choices.
If you are single and looking for married women I simply do not want to help you. In fact as long as the knowledge of a married woman happens by chance, I can also understand.
And I myself have slept with a few married women so it's not fair for me to be a moralist.
But, nevertheless, this has always happened by chance, I wasn't specifically trying to target married women. If you want to do it you are free to do it, but the how you see it yourself.
What are the best adult chats?
As I told you, often chat and sites are confused in the "vocabulary" Today and for all intents and purposes it would be better to ask what are the best dating sites.
Specifically here we should talk about sites and apps.
So what are the best sites and apps?
Very very simple. The biggest and paid ones.
These provide the most subscribers and consequently give you the most opportunity to get results, because online volume is important to get great results.
So I'll leave you below with a list of the greatest dating sites and apps.
I have written dedicated articles on each of them and, consequently, if you click on them you can delve into the specifics of each platform.
In addition to this, if you are interested in understanding "how do you" online, on the YouTube channel there are dozens of videos where I explain, all free, all for you.
If instead you want to have immediate access to information which took me years to acquire and have allowed me to make 18 appointments in 2 days online just click here.
Well, let's get to our list of apps and sites.
Tinder
Bumble
Happn
Badoo
Lovoo
Meetic
Okcupid
In addition to these I found a couple more that, given the nature of the article, may be worth reporting.
DonneMatureIncontri.com
MilfIncontri.net
I specify that not having tried them The same speech I gave you for the other sites I mentioned applies.
If you want, you could try them out within a strategy where you make use of the main platforms first.
Actually my advice remains to use the main platforms and that's it.
Because, as I always say, online is a complement and not your only way to meet women. Yes, even if you are an adult.
For a grown man, there are strategies other than adult chats for meeting women?
Yes, and to tell you the truth, quite a few.
Let's look at them together, but keep in mind that I'm only going to talk about these ways to meet women briefly here, as I've already talked about them at length elsewhere.
The first place where you can meet a more adult target of women is the disco.
Despite being a place mainly for young people every big city should have at least one nightclub that dedicates its evenings to a more mature audience.
And, if you're wondering how to meet women at clubs, I teach it here.
Another way you can get to know adult women is by approach them during the day.
I know if you're a little bit ahead of your age it might seem strange, in that "others don't".
The plain truth is that as long as you accept that that age target has several women paired and, consequently, there will be many no..
Surely when you find the single one it will be almost grateful just for being approached, if you do it right.
Women at a certain age begin to have the value on the sexual market going down and certainly do not expect to be approached in the daytime.
So at worst, you'll make their day better, even if they're busy.
That being said, I recommend that you do only if you live or can move to a big city. If you live in a small place, I don't want you to get a reputation as a man in midlife crisis, to say the least.
If however there are the premises that I have indicated and you want to learn this form of approach, I teach it to you here.
A third way that you can meet adult women is through social groups, that is, with what is called the hot approach.
The trick is to create new acquaintances and organize small events yourself, such as dinner, sushi, a weekend in the mountains, etc.
The fact of dress the role of organizer puts you in the position we define "relative alpha" And that makes your life much easier in generating attraction with women you're interested in.
I teach the complete strategy how to meet women "hot" here.
One last way you can use to meet adult women in your area are the speed dating events.
The advantage of events of this type is that they filter the target audience by age and, if you are looking for adult women, it can be the one for you.
To date I don't have a course where I teach how to behave at these types of events.
Someday who knows.
Meanwhile what you want to know is that they are events where you talk to different women in rotation for a few minutes.
So, in order to stand out from the rest of the men, the following are useful conversational skills which, if you are interested, I teach here.
Well, that's it for today.
See you soon,
Gio