Marco in a previous article has written what are the myths to dispel about trying with beautiful girls.
Responding in the comments, I noticed that there were a few questions left unanswered and that not everything was clear about the topic, so I thought I'd give my two cents.
Get ready because in this article I will try to treat the topic in a comprehensive manner, so as to clarify any doubt, ready?
Let's dispel the myth of "beautiful girls"
The first thing to do, is to dispel the myth about beautiful women. The vast majority of men when they talk to a girl do so ONLY because she is very beautiful, and this is one of the worst motivations for which to go and talk to a woman.
Looking ONLY for beauty in a partner makes beautiful women become in your eyes of the "gods", gods that for the average male become unapproachable.
Precisely because you rely exclusively on her appearance, you make assumptions about her very questionable and often far from reality.
You think for example that if a girl is very beautiful then INEVITABLY she is a valuable person, pleasant to talk to, interesting, mature and good in bed. My experience has taught me that beauty and the value of a person are unrelated, the first does not determine the other.
I represent to you what happens when you try to approach a beautiful woman based solely on her physical qualities:
- You get close to her but it increases your anxiety which prevents you from going to her and approaching her.
- If you find courage and go to approach her, you feel clumsy and nervous, thus entering the ball and ruining the interaction.
- Since you've turned her into a deity, you'll try to get your approval. And this will turn off any interest towards you.
Many men with beautiful women have a relationship of declared hatred but of secret love.
In reality they would like to have them because for them, since they are beautiful, represent the opportunity to redeem themselves and inflate their ego. A way to shout to yourself and to others "You see, I am worth something because I have a model next to me".
Just because they give us this vital importance and consider them gods as soon as they see them they don't understand anything anymore.
Then when these women don't show themselves as available as they would like they fall into victimhood and when a man feels victimized by the female gender, it is him who has become a victim and turned women into executioners.
That being said I think you should date women you find attractive, it's not a contradiction if you think about it.
What I mean is that in a healthy, mature guy, attraction consists of more than just how well she wears those leggings and how big her boobs are.
A healthy guy will not make assumptions solely based on her physical appearance, he will know that a quality woman worth throwing herself at must have a certain degree of maturity, creativity and emotional stability.
In fact being with beautiful women only for their beauty is a poor mentality. Because even if you conquer them the only thing they will be able to give you is just a more inflated ego, nothing more.
Being with beautiful women but giving importance to their value and therefore their person will give you some more intense relationships, Happier ones that will make you grow as a person and provide invaluable value in your life.
The self-esteem of beautiful girls
Beautiful women are always considered to be part of some sort of cult consisting of a superior race of human beings.
So the average man wonders why a woman of a superior race should be with such an ordinary man like him. And for this very reason it is believed that these women have a very strong self-esteem capable of facing every person and every situation. But the truth is another.
Such women often have low self-esteem, lower than the average man even compared to your. This might surprise you, because you have always been raised to believe that "beauty = value".
These types of women have always been objectified from a very young age because all the boys (and not just them) saw them as a something beautiful to get, sort of dolls.
They have probably always been object of envy from other girls and object of admiration of all the guys, but the fact is that none of the reactions they have elicited have seen them as a human being's.
Every consideration about them has been based mainly on their aspect. A life like this is very messy.
I want you to think of something else.
What is the main source of value for women in our culture?
Beauty precisely (I didn't say I like that it's like that, on the contrary, I'm saying that you have to admit the truth though).
Next question.
What is the percentage of women who according to you have a natural genetic beauty, ie those women who do not need makeup and special accessories to look beautiful?
Five, ten, maybe twenty percent? That means that at best, 80 percent of women walking the planet don't have what it takes to be recognized as "valuable" in our culture. Because they are average and do not particularly stand out for their beauty.
Do you think these girls, who are pretty yes, but not out of the ordinary beautiful, get up every morning, looking in the mirror, saying to themselves: "look how hot I am" or do you think they're saying something like: "who knows if I look presentable this morning" "let's see how I can improve my appearance"?
Okay, now take instead those 10-20 percent of women who are actually attractive by society's standards. The ones you immediately recognize when you see them on the street. Every one of them when they look around, they quickly find at least five women who are younger and/or more attractive than they are.
Since for our culture women have always been in competition with each other since childhood, even really beautiful women end up feeling inferior to women they think are more beautiful than them. This is true, and it doesn't matter how high up the food chain you go: even supermodels feel this way next to the most beautiful, young woman who just came in.
Do you think women in general feel as good about themselves as you thought they did? Think again.
The barriers of beautiful girls
Returning to practice, that is, on how to try with a beautiful woman, many of you will say: "What are you talking about, Niko?? You don't see how beautiful girls are showing off, because they're so unavailable?".
I want to be honest with you: if I told you that conquering a beautiful woman is easier than conquering an average woman I would be lying to you.
It's not easier, it's different.
Mind you, I'm talking about the kind of incredibly beautiful woman, the kind that makes walls turn when she walks by.
Pretty girl on average It makes men dumber, these become doormats and sell out to an increasingly degrading level to win her over. This generates in her some defense mechanisms And prevention towards everyone who approaches her, so yes, beautiful women do put up barriers very often.
And how can you blame them?
They have so many admirers who follow her like a puppy dog, that as soon as they meet another man, they already leave biased.
Because all these men do not consider them as people but only as objects. In their eyes they are just beauty and that's it, they don't see their character, their feelings, their fears, their dreams etc.. none of that.
On the other hand, imagine if you were rich and all the women you meet only wanted to take money from you (which does NOT happen, it's an example!!!!) , how would that change your judgment of women you meet?
So we are all doomed? No!
And here's where the fun comes in. The barriers that pretty girls put up are barriers that break down immediately because they are only at a superficial level, that is, they break down as soon as they see that you have a 'authentic approach e deep towards them and towards interactions in general.
In the end it is just a mask that falls almost immediately, the only thing to do is not to consider them only for their beauty.
What this means in practice? Let me give you some examples.
- You approach her hoping to get her attention and availability? Barrier. Rejected.
- Buy her a drink even though you don't know her and she might be a bitch? Barrier. Rejected.
- You don't give a damn if she shoots bullshit because she's beautiful and that's worth more than anything else? Barrier.
- You go to her to find out who she really is and would you be willing to say hello to her in case you feel bad about interacting with her? Barrier broken, perfect.
- You look at her wrong and stop her by letting her know that it's not the case if she asks you for favors even though she has no confidence in you? Barrier broken, perfect.
Here is the secret: stop considering them only for their beauty and start considering them for their person.
What to do in practice
Once we have talked about the barriers and how to break them it's time to understand what to do in order to approach and conquer beautiful girls.
Here I want to prepare you to conquer the most beautiful women, the ones that everyone covets, the ones that when they pass by everyone turns around and stares at them.
Yes because it is preparation and not just tricks that do not work in the long term, those we leave to others. Once you are ready for the most beautiful ones you will be ready for all the others.
First of all, start from the assumption that they are surrounded by men, they are real magnets and this has meant that they have always been in contact with men who have tried to do so.
This changes the girl's psychology a bit: they are more used to being approached and being in contact with multiple men.
And I'll tell you more: they've most likely also been with successful, more confident men than the average male. Their beauty may have put them in contact with musicians, entrepreneurs, maybe even politicians.
Unfortunately you are not the first one who stands out from the average man they have seen, this is a fact that very often they do not tell you. You're definitely not among those who inzerbin (if you followed my suggestions) but you're also not the only one they've met who falls out of this category.
So if you try to do this you only risk to be "one of the many" not to be taken into consideration much.
Obviously here we are always talking about superficial level, of first interactions and not of the phase in which you go to know her better and deeper. But you also have to make sure that you get to that deeper level Where you allow yourself to have a deeper interaction.
If you don't feel ready and you feel anxiety or pressure to interact with women like that, you are probably not yet completely in order. The importance of basic social skills: being able to relate to others is a necessary condition?
The watchword here is: "be an all-around man.".
If you have major deficiencies in some area of your life this will show in your person, drastically decreasing the chances of conquest.
I'll give you a list so you can understand us right away.
- You still have problems of insecurity and low self-esteem? Work on it.
- You have major issues in some area of your life (like work and family)? Work on it.
- You neglect your appearance, you don't wash, you don't shave, you don't dress well, you have weight problems? Work it out.
- You think that to be serene you have to have the approval of others? Work on it.
- You can't go out alone because you feel lost if you are not in company? Work on that.
- You have trouble relating to people? Work on it
- You have problems relating to women in general? You have to work on this first.
- You are afraid to approach strangers? Work on it.
- You don't have a rich, beautiful and exciting lifestyle? Work on it.
- You are still afraid to expose yourself in situations in the public sphere? Work on it
- You are not able to develop intimacy with a woman by showing yourself vulnerable? Work on it.
- You are disconnected with yourself, with your intentions and are afraid to openly and expressly show your sexual or sentimental side without feeling bad about it? Work on it.
I'm telling you that you have to be superman to get a beautiful woman?
No.
In fact, all the points I listed above are aimed at making you a confident man, mature, independent and balanced. What I call a integrated man. As you can see these points are ideas to improve your life and not ways to conquer a girl.
But once you've worked on these areas of your life your value will greatly increase and it will shine through when you go to hit on a beautiful woman, not only that, but you'll have such confidence that you'll deal with any situation you have to handle with a girl.
So in this case it's better to say: think about yourself first and then about girls.
Niko