Of course, everyone is different. We know. But there's something you definitely need to know about him so you don't get in trouble. So, if you don't want to lose in this dangerous game of M + W, read our 10 "nots" and learn them by heart.
1. NOT…
…Ask him stupid questions of the series:
"You love me?"
"I'm fat?"
"Verka is stupid?"
Let's be honest, what do you want to hear back from him?? It's not the truth?! So don't ask then.
2. NOT…
…coddle him, like he's a retarded child. Guys don't like that. Just trust us. Over time, you'll probably come up with your own secret language with special nicknames like "musipusichek" and "kukuripochka". But it should come naturally and consensually.
3. NOT…
…Ask every five seconds:
"What are you thinking right now?"
It's a silly question. Even if you ask him with a languid gasp. See. previous point.
4. NOT…
…Criticize him head-on. Unless, of course, you want to get results and not just fight with him. Many people are unable to adequately accept critical judgments about their. So if you really have something to say to him, you're gonna have to find ways around it. At least start your speech with praise. And then burn!
5. DON'T…
…flirt with his friends. I don't think any explanation is needed here. First of all, it's, um….. how shall I put it, not very clever. And secondly, before doing anything, it's a good idea to think about what kind of result you want to get.
6. NOT…
…Check his email, Texting, private messages on VKontakte. You know, before you stick your prying nose into someone else's correspondence, it's a good idea to ask yourself if you're ready for what you'll read there? Sorry, but we couldn't resist – and here comes the plain truth: relationships need to be built on trust. If you find the dirt you're looking for, it's probably too late to fix it. What if your boyfriend catches you doing this, and there was nothing criminal in his correspondence? Can you imagine how hurtful…
7. DO NOT…
…keep him from watching the game favorite team, computer game, interesting book, etc.ะด. Boys are only able to concentrate on one thing. Their principle: "One head, one thought.". So if you really want to be heard, wait until your chosen one's brain is not occupied with extraneous information.
8. NOT…
…take him with you on your shopping trips. The shopping will be ruined. We guarantee it. The maximum for a boyfriend in the store is an hour. After that, he starts to bawl, whine, and make shameful attempts to escape. So don't spoil your karma, take a friend with you. Unless, of course, you're dating the fashion-crazed guy who's willing to spend all day at the mall choosing between a khaki bomber and a shade of burgundy.
9. NOT…
…lecture him. After all, you're not his cool Marivanna! And you're certainly not his mother. So don't make the same mistakes, be smarter. Start all of your statements with the pronoun "I.". For example, NOT:
"You need to brush up on your English. "or you'll still be a loser.".
AND THAT:
"I think knowing the language today is very important and can seriously help you in your job search. Do you agree? Maybe we should take a language class together? What do you think??".
10. NOT…
…Try to change him. Remember, baby, people don't change. It's especially frustrating that they never do it our way. Sure, you can achieve certain triumphs in little things, but if there are serious contradictions between you and you see that you're going in different directions in life, maybe you shouldn't waste your time? There are a lot of nice, compliant guys around who are easy-going.